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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I like this guy in my Law class, but he's friendly with a lot of girls and it's difficult to tell if he feels for me properly. He has a lot of friends of the opposite sex, hugs and flirts a little with them (he does this with both sexes actually, but he's definately straight.) From the moment I met him, I was quite cold towards his flirty behaviour; eventually I saw past it and we get along great, having lots in common. I catch him staring at me a whole lot now, and he seems to turn up in the same places as me; when I catch his eye, he smiles and prolongs it for as long as possible. It's as if he's started feeeling differently about me. He seems to find a way to stay in the same room a me, milling around doing nothing really. I'm certain he knows I like him, but I'm not like the other girls he knows; most just play into his hand and flirt outrageously, and it's not from conscious decision, it's just my nature to not overstep the line. We've been getting closer lately, he hugs me a lot and seems to try to find excuses to do it, once again prolongs it for as long as he can. He's encircled my waist a couple of times, and seems to always pop up out of the blue when I'm alone with other guys and starts hugging, touching, tickling. Eventually the guy gets deterred and leaves. He seems to recall tiny things I say when I don't even think he is listening, and if I say I like/dislike something, he instantly agrees and with great enthusiasm. I was talking about a guy I disliked, and he made a big point of insisting he never liked him in the first place. He sits near me, and I always catch him staring at least once every lesson; it's as if I can literally feel his eyes depressing into me. He calls he sexy/hot/pretty, ECT, but it's hard to tell what his true motives are as he is so friendly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): The guy is confident and has discovered that paying a girl attention is a way to get a girl to like you. He likes the effect he has on girls. He is aware of it.He's a teen aged boy who discovered his sexuality and attractiveness. He's playing it. Not serious of mind.I thinks its a normal reaction to be attracted to a guy that flirts and pays attention to you but he's doing it away from you to someone else just as much; therefore, untrustworthy.It would be folly to believe dating such a player mentality would mean he would stop the flirting and overly friendly, I can touch anyone and they won't say no aspect of his dynamic.You know he is like that and to enforce change would be dishonest.Just enjoy the chemistry but let it be at just flirting.
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