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*ennesseechica
writes:Hi everyoneI've been friends with a girl named Natalie for about 6 months now. She lives 40 minutes away from me. My friends that live close to me and I decided that it would be funny to lie to Natalie and tell her that I had this huge complicated relationship with my long term crush named Andrew. I never actually dated Andrew, but we told Natalie that we dated and broke up twice and all of this other stuff. We figured that it would work out since she lives so far away and doesn't know anyone from my town. We would make up huge breakup stories and even made up a fake screen name for Andrew and faked phone calls from him when Natalie was around. It got completely out of control and the lie got so big, we couldn't back out of it.Well, Natalie texted me last night "tell me the truth about Andrew." I knew this would eventually happen...She says that shes never talking to me again and that she was sorry she ever fell for it. I really want to stay friends with Natalie but I don't think it will ever happen. What can I say to her that could possibly change her mind? I know our friendship will never be like it once was, but I dont wanna loose her. My life is screwed.
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reader, Demon_2004 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 I was always told when I was growing up if you never lie you never have to deal with the consequences.
With that said It will probably take a lot to gain back her trust.
So you have a long road head of you get after it.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Your life isn't screwed! You've just been an idiot for your own amusement! If I were Natalie I wouldn't speak to you either, why should she decide to stay friends with someone who is a compulsive liar! (This is a real post and not a fake is it?)
I can understand why Natalie wouldn't want to be friends with some one who not only lied to her face but backed it up with fake e-mails and phone calls! You really need to find a better way to occupy your time.
Trust is the most important thing in any relationship, you can't be trusted therefore you aren't a friend I think you should profusely apologise to her but don't expect her to welcome you back into her life!
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reader, Nessie Rose +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Wow! I have to admit you took it teensy bit far, don't you think? But yeah, I get that it was all a bit of fun. However, Natalie probably feels really hurt and probably thought you were all laughing at her behind her back. The only thing I can see for you to do is to apologise and tell her what happened - that it started out as a joke and you never really meant to lie to her. You have to tell it to her face, though, else she'll think you're just playing another trick. It's a once bitten, twice as deadly situation. No, she may never fully trust you again and it'll take hard work to bring her round (depending on how hurt she is)but if you really want to keep her as a friend, you should try your very hardest to make it up to her. The most important thing is not to argue with her about it. Just say you're sorry.
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