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writes:Hey guys! Well a little info before I start. I am a bit of a joker but not immature or anything, I just like to make people feel good and make them more comfortable. Well Me and my girlfriend were talking and she said "You and me will have a nice romantic time" to which I said "... and friends" (the TV show because we often watch it together). After that all things went to hell. She lets her past with other boyfriends haunt her while I am trying to be the best boyfriend that I can ever be. I am really nice with her but because of the one boyfriend, every week at least once we argue. She has things that tick her off, if I say it but she doesn't tell me what they are, she just gets extremely upset if I say one of them. I don't think I should have to change just cuz she over reacts to some things that are not caused by me what so ever. I really love her and i want to be with her but latley it's been getting bad. Please tell me how do you see this. Was I wrong in any way? Yeah maybe I should have not said the joke but after all it was just a joke. I feel like i have to walk on egg shells when I am talking to her and that is really bad.
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reader, GMWolfman  +, writes (28 March 2009):
First off what i dont understand is why she wont tell you :) i see no reason for her to hide it, you maybe able to avoid upsetting her then, and secondly, try and make it up to her, take her out to lunch or something, i hope it would work, but i'm unsure as to say, but you might need to find out what upsets her above all others, then you can avoid talking about it again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): I honestly don't understand the "and friends" joke so I can't speak to that. Perhaps she feels you aren't fully invested in the relationship?
I'd say you need to tell her how all this stuff makes you feel. Ask her what's upsetting her. If she won't tell you, there's nothing you can do fix the relationship. You might have to breakup with her as you can't work on relationship problems without talking through them.
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