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writes:Hello Dear cupid ladies and Gentlemen.I'm in a very confusing situation with my boyfriend of a year. For starters our relationship is going straight to the ground.Since January we've been fighting a lot every single day!And he's been acting so weird to me. To begin with he doesn't cuddle with me anymore I'm always having to ask him to cuddle with me ( he used to just randomly cuddle with me) He doesn't kiss me unless i ask him to( he used to kiss me without me having to ask) He used to come up behind me randomly and put his arms around me and hug and just be lovey dovey and was so sweet to me.Since January he always has an attitude with me, we barley talk to each other unless we are fighting. And now we don't even have sex anymore. We haven't had sex at all this month except the first of the month. He used to be interested in sex all the time. But the last two times we've went to have sex he stops. for example we'll have sex for about 5 minutes and then he'll just stop and go down stairs and play his video game or watch tv. used to he would never stop during sex. i have found out that he jacks off idk how often or when cause he always does it when im at work or not home. the first time we tried to have sex he stopped in the middle of doing it and said that he was to tired. Last night we was having sex and he stopped in the middle and said that his leg was cramping, a few minutes later i asked him why he stopped and he said because his leg was itching. I'm so confused i don't know whats going on with him because he wont tell me. I asked him what was wrong with him and why he didn't want to have sex anymore and he said the sex drive isn't there anymore, and because we go straight to having sex and it kills the sex drive. Used to us just going at it never was a problem. i noticed that last night he was doing new positions with me that he didn't do the last time we tried doing it. any way we kept talking about it and he said that he hasn't been interested in having sex because we've been fighting so much and can't get along. It's really hurting my feelings because i feel like i'm no longer good enough for him. Could he be cheating on me? or could what he be saying be true?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 February 2014):
 He could be cheating but I'm betting it's the fighting.
My hubby really put forth an effort this weekend and I realized it's because I've been practicing being kinder to him lately. I've been very angry with him and picking fights.
what are you fighting about.
If you have been fighting daily for 6 weeks, then perhaps the relationship has run it's course and its' time to consider parting. If you are afraid to leave him talk to me about why you don't want to end it.
Make a list of all the good things in the relationship CURRENTLY... NOT in the past, not what you hope for but what has occurred int he last 3-4 weeks only. then next to it make a list of all the bad things in the same time frame.
then use the two lists to help figure out if it's even worth fixing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2014):
No one can say for certain he is cheating, however your relationship is at crisis point .. He won't kiss you unless asked, he doesn't touch you unless asked.. He finds excuses to avoid any sort of intimacy between you both .
Before you start shouting and raging at him .. You need to start looking for clues.. For instance does he go out on his own/mates .. Where do they go..?
Does he play online games, ? Who is he chatting with are any females ?
You need to start begin quiet, withdraw yourself a lot.. Sit back and watch how he reacts.. I think he wants you to end it .. Let him sweat it ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2014): It sounds like he could have a porn addiction. Does he work or is he mainly at home alone? I know this sounds bad, but have you checked the history on your computer or checked for dirty movie downloads? Some people might think that looking at porn is just harmless but it really does affect relationships and it can be as bad as cheating. It could also account for the trying different positions. Whether he's cheating on you with a woman or with porn, this issue really needs to be addressed, because it's not fair on you.
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reader, cgrlygo +, writes (23 February 2014):
 sweetie... I hate to say this but he's cheating. he's showing all the signs.. and just isn't man enough to do the right thing. He's using new positions prolly cause he just learned them from someone else. the change in attitude and personality ... all these are tell tale signs. the drive isn't there because you are not her. ugh... please confront him... hes cheating you know it... please please stand up for yourself.. call his sorry butt out.
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