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*hazzaDecadence
writes:Hi, I have had a massive crush on a friend of mine for years and last year on valentines day I told him how I felt but he blew me off. Ever since then he's been using me to get things. I know he is using me and that he doesn't like me in that way but I'm frightened to stop being friends with him because I want him so much. It doesnt seem to matter what he does or how much he makes me hurt inside, I don't seem to be able to get over him. When I've confronted him about it I feel sick and end up apologizing over and over in an attempt to make friends again. I would like to know if anyone has any advice as to how I could get him to like me or how I could get over him...?
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reader, ChazzaDecadence +, writes (6 March 2009):
ChazzaDecadence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much to everyone I really appreiciate it guys xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You just have to be strong and cut all contact with him. He is not going to be your friend and is going to use his control over you to get away with hurting you.
This boy sounds like bad news and has the makings of an abusive man. Leave him alone, have nothing to do with him! There are nice guys out there, don't get stuck in a rut with this idiot.
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reader, PHATandSWEET  +, writes (6 March 2009):
Hello ,
First of all I understand how you feel about careing for someone. But if he blew you off when you tried to explain how you felt then he isn't worth your time. Also if he is just using you to get what he wants friend or not or man or not that is just bad business. You need to find someone that is going to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Also if all he wants is what he can get then you need to tell him to buzz off. Because if all he is getting now is material things then if you all ever get really close then you have to watch that because all he might want is sex and thats bad. But just think about what you really want and how you want to feel and make your choice. No one can do that for you. The only way to block him out is not to talk to him he he comes around tell him your busy and just cut your self back. I know it will be hard and it will take time but in the end it just might be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Look I am sorry to be so blunt about this but it is this simple, you just have to STOP. Stop talking to him, letting him use you, everything. He will continue to do this until you put your foot down. And as long as you surround yourself with this guy you will never be able to get over him honey. You have to ask yourself, is it really worth it? Chances are if he uses you like this now then he will never respect you. Best of luck to you, keep me posted on how its going.
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