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writes:this is sort of a small rant/ if u have any advice plse tell ^.^ok, i live in colorado (whether that's suppposed to be a secret or not i'm not sure) anyway, i've been trying to meet girls to have some sort of meaningful relationship (as in know i don't want to go home with you after i say hello) except that doesn't exist here... they're either not gay or want just sex. online dating sites really kinda freak me out because frankly you go in there looking for a connection right off the bat O.oso i'm kinda lost as to what to do being as no i'm not the prettiest girl on the block, and yes i have ideals... i just really want to have an actual relationship with a girl that isn't in it for hope of sex or something... and ya i'll admit that i haven't been in many girl relationships before... but... isn't there any way that I can meet a girl and not have her say "wanna screw" in the frist 5 seconds? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes :)...thank you so much for the advice
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reader, StarburstGrin +, writes (12 February 2010):
 A lot of times when you are not looking, that person comes along. Maybe don't try so hard. You are young and have your own life to live, so when a respectable girl notices that, she will be attracted to your flourishing life and independence and that fact that you do not need anyone in your life to make you whole. After all, those are the girls you are attracted to, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmaybe....but that still leaves the problem of finding anyone period who actually wants to be in a relationship..i'm not saying they shouldn't have fun...but i don't want casual sex...but no matter where i don't meet anyone who wants that
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reader, StarburstGrin +, writes (11 February 2010):
do you think these girls are young and at an age where they just want to party and have fun and aren't ready to settle down yet? Maybe someone who has matured and is looking for more is key?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm usually in too-long-jeans a t-shirt or longer sleeves and a baggy zip up sweater.......and it isn't so much a specific person...it's everytime i try to meet a girl period, or get to know anything about her...it seems to be the same routine all the time
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reader, StarburstGrin +, writes (10 February 2010):
How are you dressing and displaying yourself? You may be setting yourself up for that invitation. Act like you have class and she will believe it. Dress like you respect yourself and don't dress slutty. If she asks that, don't write her off right away, make it a joke and lighten the mood and say "woah now!" like you are surprised and tell her to slow down and laugh it off. She may be embarrassed and try to act a little more classy if she truly wants to impress you.
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