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writes:alright, ive been going out with this great guy. we've been friends forever and about a year ago we started going out. i trusted him with my life but i dont really know anymore. recently he went to a sleepover for something at school and there were other girls there sleeping over too. i guess they started playing spin the bottle and he ended up kissing a few girls on the cheek then dropped out of the game. then, the next day he confessed everything to me and i could tell how terrible he felt about it. im almost positive he was crying. but i still dont know how i should act. i dont really know if you could consider it cheating because it was just on the cheek but still, the trust level has gone down a little bit. he was completely aware of what hewas doing and he doesnt drink or do drugs, he was fully able to make the decision himself. i just need opinions. girls, how would you react, and guys, would you ever do this or would you consider it cheating? im just at a loss.
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reader, alcopafenaca +, writes (11 March 2009):
alcopafenaca is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, these are some really helpful answers. & to be honest, i think im just going to forgive him. its not worth the fight this time. but i've already told him that this is his last chance so we'll see how this all goes. but i know he really regretted it.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 You asked if I considered this cheating and my answer is NO, he got in a silly game respected you and kiss her on the cheek when he could have quite easily kissed her properly, also he told you the next day, he could have not told you at all, which in a way would be good as you wouldn't be worrying now.
But you are much younger than I am, I kiss people on the cheek all the time and so does my wife, but maybe that's because we're in love and know a kiss on the cheek is a sign of friendship not wanting to jump into bed with them. It all boils down to trust and respect.
You need to talk to each other and decide yourselves what cheating is, if you think it's a kiss on the cheek and he thinks it's only full sex, well you know you are not compatible.
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (11 March 2009):
cheating is what the couple thinks it is. you need to think if you think its cheating or not and decide off of that and talk to him about what he thinks cheating is and isnt and come to some middle ground on what you both view it as. you cant really count this as cheating since you havnt told each other what cheating is to either of you. you can think that it is kissing on the cheeck while he thinks its ok all the way up to the sexual flirting and sex. make middle ground. couples have to know that the building blocks of anything is communication. let me know if i was any help to you at all and let me know how you end up with him.
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reader, bd2009 +, writes (11 March 2009):
I understand how you feel but you are still young and boys come and go. If you feel that you cant trust him it's up to you to decide. But put yourself and your feelings before anyone elses.
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reader, justice09 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Ok, well it probably hurts you what he did. I mean me personally..if my boyfrind kissed another girl on the cheek..I would probably kick his a**..but that's because I just had his baby. And we're engaged and stuff. It would be dfferent if you and your boyfriend we're going out to dinner with another couple and he pecked the other girl on the cheek to greet her. (Like the guy would peck you on the cheek.) Some people do that sort of thing. But..mainly what you ned to question him about is..why the hell did you even start playing spin-the-bottle? Ask him how he would feel in your position. I mean..what ddhe think he going to end up doing playing spin-the-bottle?? Shake hands?? But..I mean it's kinda sorta cheating in a way if ya'll are serious. But..then again..atleast it wasn't anything more. I would tell him exactly how you feel and forgive him this one time. But..make sure he knows this is his only get out of jail free. Good Luck =)
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