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writes:ok so there is this girl i like but she is 2 years younger than me so im not sure if that is ok or not as in im too old or shes too young. Is two years at this age a big deal? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Nightingale,
It is true that I have never been a 14 year old young lady. It does tend to taint my perspective. I too am worried about the general level of acceptance for sexual activity among the younger people these days.
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reader, Chrisj +, writes (2 October 2009):
Chrisj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbtw im 16 and she is 14
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 October 2009):
Age is not only a number. Nothing is only a number. Where does this idea come from. Numbers represent things, they are symbols to help us understand and predict the world. Two years represents 670 days. It represents the difference between being able to get a job and not being considered. It represents getting a drivers license, and riding a bicycle. It represents 12% of your life. It represents whether you vote or not. It represents which school you attend. Why should parents, and smart teens, not use it as a guideline the same way all of society does? If parents are not allowed to instruct and correct their children then why do we need them? With teens you teach them correct principles, then observe to see if they follow them. Parent's don't do this because it is fun, We do it because of genuine concern for our child's welfare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): age is only a number and you people have problems to stop your kids dating. a 2yr gap is nothing! in relationships do you look at age first or love and care? if so then you shouldnt be in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): my 12 year old daughter has a crush that is 16. He also likes her. Im ok with it, but they cant date, or be alone. She cant talk to him on the phone. They see each other at school and at church in group settings...and always an adult in the area. He is polite and respectful which totally makes a difference. Just dont have sex. Thats where the legalities can send you to jail.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 October 2009):
If you are 16 and she is 14 she isn't mature enough. If you are 17 and she is 15 she thinks she is mature enough, and you will likely dump her when you graduate, which will break her heart. Alternative ly you may continue to date her when you are 18 and she is still a minor and get yourself into all kinds of trouble. If you were 23 and she was 21 I would have no trouble with that. If you were 46 and she was 44 we wouldn't even be discussing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): My daughter is 14. It would be a big deal to me if she wanted to go out with a guy who was 16.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 October 2009):
It isn't a big deeal, no. Just be aware that if she is below 16, then it's illegal to have sex with her.
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