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writes:I had a brief relationship a few months ago with a guy. We used to go out socialising together and sometimes his twin brother would be there. He got a job abroad and we would see (and sleep with) each other now then when he was home. It was not serious just a bit of fun. However recently when he was away I was on a night out and met up with his twin, we got on really well and ended up sleeping with each other. I did feel a tad ashamed that I had slept with both brothers. I have now developed a fondness for the second twin and he has with me too. I would like to persue a relationship him and see how it goes. My question is this: is this wrong that I had a meaningless fling with someone and now I've fell for his brother? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): You feel a fondness for the second brother but I would only pursue it if you felt more seriously. Is it possible you can meet up with him amongst friends before developing a realtionship with him? This is a tricky one, because blood is thicker than water, especially the blood between two twins. Both brothers have slept with you without being in love, perhaps they both see you as a 'fling' rather than anything more serious. It is important to see how his brother (the one you like) feels before you can make any decisions on this one. It is, without doubt, going to be tricky, but it can be overcome if you like each other. The problem should not be with you - it is something the two brothers should sort out between themselves. However, it is important to respect the fact that the first brother you slept with may have developed feelings for you too. Just because you saw it as a fling does not mean he saw it that way. Tread carefully and pursue this if you are sure of your feelings. Take your time..what's the rush? Remember, there are many successful relationships built on far shakier foundations! Best of luck XX
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 September 2007):
 As long as the first brother felt the same way, ie the relationship was casual then it's up to you who you want to pursue a relationship with. It might be that the first brother IS very fond of you and took the "casual" relationship for more than that, in which case he'd not only be hurt but more than likely fall out with the brother and resent you! Only YOU know the full circumstances here.
Eve
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (6 September 2007):
Do both twins know? Insist they discuss it and agree. Maybe they are both just using you.
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