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writes:Me and my girlfriend were together for five months. It was a happy loving relationship. We never once fell out, I treated her so well and would of done anything for her and she knew this. everyone was really surprised that it finished and still are.....Towards the end of the relationship we started to see too much of each other and I think it put a strain on the relationship. I felt because it was going so good I felt something was going to go wrong and I think it made me a bit clingy as well towards the end. Anyways she started going out on nights out with her m8 cos her m8 had just split up with her b/f. her m8 kept asking her to go out all the time and I think it put my ex into an awkward position.So one Monday night we were going on holiday the next day and she had seemed in a funny mood all day so I asked her what was wrong and she kept saying nothing until I in the end she told me that she didn’t want to be tied down anymore but on the other hand she still loves me and wants to be with me. She seemed very confused at the time. So anyways we went on this holiday and talked about everything and decided when we got back we’d go on a 2-week break. Which only lasted a week because I didn’t think she would change her mind. She was still confused and I think she wanted the best of both worlds and realized that couldn’t happen. So we were both upset because we had such a gr8 time together.Some say it was her only m8 that influenced our break up as she was telling my gf how good single life is and she was asking my ex to come out all the time and it made her feel like she was missing out and put in an awkward position.This all happened last July after that we were in contact a lot through august.So From their I decided give her a chance to miss me. she got in touch a couple of times in September. and in October i sent 1 text asking how she was. I saw her 2 weeks after that in town and she was telling me that she read one of my letters that i sent after we broke up and she was asking if I had met any 1 which I hadn't... So that was thatwell its been 4 months now I thought I’d got In touch with her yesterday afternoon on the off chance andI got through to her. So we chatted for about 20 mins about what we had been up to and how we have been.She asked me if I had met any 1 as she keeps asking my mates and me and I said No. She said she had met this lad in townThat she meets every sat night. He’s 13 years older and she said she doesn’t no anything about him. Which Is quite scary and only sees him once a week. I didn’t say anything but A few of people think he will be married or something because it seems strange. I think she just wants to see who and what is out there. As she dosen't know where he works or lives... he's 33 and she is 19.ANYWAYSAfter that call I felt I needed to apologise about feeling that I spoilt things towards the end. I knew there was risk to it and a lot would say I shouldn’t. But I needed to know and couldn’t feel down about it. So I rang her back and asked if I could meet up for an hour as I felt bad about something and needed to chat and she accepted.So I picked her up on the night, she seemed really confident than usual and she was dressed quite smart even though she wasn’t feeling very well so I promised we’d just go out for an hour. So we went back to mine had a long chat about everything and I brought the fact about her and me.I told her that Although we had such a great time together I felt I spoilt it towards the end, Some things I did I can’t explain, I was going to put it in the letter but I didn’t and wish I had so that’s why I’m telling you now. I was nervous for her response and she said don’t worry its fine and smiled. She said thatShe was really happy with me and loved me but but everything went to quick and that we rushed into things Also thatShe was in a relationship last year for 10 months then a month later she started going out with me for 5Months and that she needed to see what was out there and was confused at the time. She said we both were to blame really. But she said a few times a week what we had comes into my head and when I hear songs we used to listen to I think that’s we did.And used to do..So overall risky but now everything’s sorted and I feel so much better.She said the reason sheHasn’t been in touch the last 6 weeks is cos she lost her phone.I asked her if she was still going in town with her only m8 and she said No she’s back with her ex b/f. and she joked saying I probs wont see her again nowSo lastly I came out and said, “ I know back in august you said that you wouldn’t go back into past relationships “ But do you think ours could be worth giving another goAfter all we got on so well enjoyed the time together, knew were went wrong and we would know to give each other space to do our own thing. and not to rush into thingsShe said well I dunno I sorta want to see how it goes with thisNew lad but i dunno... So I said ah well I wish you well and I hope it works outAnd if you’re happy I am. So anyways she hugged me and said our goodbyes and that was that…I might be wrong here but i cant see anything happening with this new ladplus her m8 is now back with her b/f.and she hates been stuck in the house beacuse she dosent have much of a home life..One or two people say to me that its been 4 months and that i should of had no contact at all but her best m8 is now back with her ex after 5 months apart and he was bothering her quite a lot and she's missed him and now back with him.so i dont no what to do or believe1. should I leave it now call her once every few weeks maybe go for a drink and see how it goesOr just leave it and NO contact and let her think I’ve gone for good which might take a month or longer but i'll try itor just go with the heart and write an email to her asking if she would consider giving it another go..I know you will tell me to forget her what with this new lad and everything but i know her better than any 1 and she just seems confused.just i think its worth fighting for...what should I do?thanks for reading
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reader, steve107 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 By all means pal have 1 last try. youv both had time to see what life is like without each other you clearly love her 2bits. give it just a little longer and see if she is going leave this guy. She probebly dosnt know what she wants. Her teenage years of having fun and no commitments are coming to an end the real world is going to kick in eventualy a just hope it is you that she relises she wants to be with.
Give it 1 last try for you and her just choose your moment carefully and use your head and dont let your love for her cloud your vision.
gd luck pal. remember use you head !!!
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