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anonymous
writes:I watched a video on couples (some strangers, some long term etc) who had to look into each others eyes for 4mins. The experiment proved them to feel closer and much more connected than they did moments ago, after having experienced all of the vulnerability associated with that...Now I have a date with a new guy due this weekend and wanted to know if, maybe at the end, doing this sort of excersize would be too forward and awkward? It just looked so sweet...Would we jumping the gun? Would it help us feel more closer and vulnerable in a good way? If so, how would I, as the girl, creatively or confidently suggest this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (26 February 2015):
Dear OP,
Yes, it would be too straightforward and awkward. Definitely.
It's a sweet thing to do when people are together for a longer time, when the trust is there. But as you said, this man is new in your life and you can't force the feelings of trust and intimacy to grow quicker than they do.
But hey, enjoy your date and also make eye contact :). Not 4 minutes, but eye contact is still very important to start desire, intimacy and love.
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reader, mfj78 +, writes (26 February 2015):
I don't think asking a guy on a first date to stare into your eyes for four minutes would be appropriate. It would probably be awkward and the effect probably temporary.
There's a huge difference between a natural rapport and trying to force that rapport by replicating a "technique".
You will either click with the guy or you wont. Introducing such a technique is likely to be a case of trying to hard to make it happen and causing awkwardness. If such a thing worked as easy as you suggest we would all be doing it!
Just be your self ;-)
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