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writes:ok so first off I dated a girl for a while bout a year. I thought I was in love. in fact I knew I loved her. she told me she loved me. we didn't get to see each other so I arranged to take a trip to cali. about two weeks before we left i was at work and a washing machine fell on me ripping my tendents in my leg. acl mcl and one connecting my knee cap. i don't remember the entire situation but I was set to go to cali. I did go I took her to the beach disney land and to a concert. when we got back home she texted me from work saying she can't be with me and she just wants to be friends. I was caught off guard and told her the truth I couldn't do that. because of the way I felt about her. don't get me wrong I could die for her, I went on a trip with nothing else but one crutch. I want nothing else but her to be happy but I can't see her with another man i don't know what I would do. I recently had surgery and am now recovering I can't take my pain meds because I get so depressed I cry. I didn't even fucking cry when the accident happen. I have no insurance and am only gettin medical help because of workmans comp. im so depressed and losing it. its been 6 months I still think about her and have ran into her twice while goin out to the store wit friends. now im stuck in a wheelchair can barely go anywhere. stuck in my house by myself alone and just thinkin about her. is this rock bottom? how do I forget the person I thought was my perfect match?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): I know you are in pain, and I am sorry. But you are sitting there in misery and self-pity, probably most of which is your inability to get out at this point.
Forget this chick! It's over. Every time you think of her, force your mind to think of something else.
Hopefully, the next time you see her, you will have a better looking chick on your arm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): You need be be aware that that is a common danger when starting a relationship with someone you haven't physically met. Google anyone who's planning to meet their online bf/gf and you will see that there is an ongoing concern that feelings will change once you meet in person. Sounds like that is what happened to this girl. In all likelihood, she wasn't mentally prepared, or she had been building illusions of how you'd be as a person. And once you were there, she realized her feelings just weren't at the same level as yours are.
Do not feel too heartbroken. There is a good side in all of this. She was honest with you. When dating long distance it's crucial to be able to trust the other, and he being honest means she was probably honest with you all along, which is a good thing. She could have continued dating you and stringing you on, but she has enough respect for you to let you know the truth.
You will find other girls that love you just as much as you love them. Time heal all wounds. In 5 years time or less, you'll have found a new love, and this girl wont be hurting your heart any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Dude first off serious condolences on the quantity of crap that has come your way.
Your at a low place now , no doubt about that. The honest answer to your question is that things can always get worse but so too can they get better.
You need to cry man, feel the pain inside in you acknowledge what youve been through, say that life is crap , talk to your mates about it and then get out of the mud. The mud is what I use to describe the thoughts that drag you down on a daily basis. When you think bad thoughts like, the pain wont stop, she wont like me, or whatever, by all means think them once but then leave them there.
You will find someone else of that I have no doubt. You might be in a wheelchair at the moment but you will get out of it one day, put all your effort into your recovery, make sure your physio is 110% and as your doing so prove the point to yourself, to her, to your mates and to anyone else that you are not going to be beaten by this or anything else.
Its a cliche but its true, that that dont kill you , cacn only make you stronger.
Live your life man, its a low point now but youll be high up there sooner rather than later.
All the best, Elpigaro
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