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writes: My exgirlfriend and I have a long-term, ongoing dysfunctional history and fights. She fights dirtier than anyone I've ever met. After one break up, she said the most nastiest stuff she could think of--making fun of every aspect of my life and my physical appearance. Because I'm stupid, I took her back...the next breakup, she posted 4 angry voice mails I left her on facebook and youtube, and sent the link to one of my friends (knowing it would get all around.) This most recent breakup, she sent my buddy's girlfriend (of 6years,) a facebook message saying her bf cheated on her, that I told her about this...with a few details. I know this is crazy and unacceptable behavior, but to be fair, she thought she was telling the truth--every word she typed to the girl did come out of my mouth without ANY exaggeration, however she did get one detail wrong--THE NAME. It was another friend who cheated on his girlfriend who I told her about--NOT this one!!!! Fatal mistake. She's crazy...but I love her. I wish I didn't, and I try not to...but I always end up going back to her. We've always had a rough relationship, but she didn't start out this crazy....she's gotten crazier lately..I guess because the more time and emotions she's invested in me, the more intense the break up and the higher the stakes? I I remember a time when we used to break up, and I wouldn't hear from her for months and months...until I called her again. Not anymore...btw, we've taken turns dumping each other throughout our entire screwed up track record. I always imagined one day we'd settle down and wind up being together...she feels so good in my arms. Our chemistry is so strong, and that leads to these intense blowouts. Is this relationship salvagable? *Remember--this is only one side of the story. you don't know what i've done to provoke all of this crazy stuff...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): Yes, you're relationship is definitely salvagable. However, the dysfunction will need to be addressed at length commencing with an analysis of it root(s) and the formulation and implementaion of strategies to control its continuance. It will take work on both parts, committed work that is, and perhaps anger management counseling, etc. It worked for my girlfriend and I.
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