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writes:Long story short... we have had our fair share ofups and downs, it's LDR, he broke up with me first time because he wasn't ready and then asked to take me back a few months ago, I took him back met up with him again, felt like i couldn't ever be more in love... miss him to death etc etcHe has this girl who texts him (at like 3am) and is on his stupid bebo page, I get insecure and jealous, it's annoying because i think he does really love me but i don't trust her and get these images in my head, we both have been fighting for the last few days, and i feel sick and low, I really miss him anyway so that adds to the pressure, we had even been talking about us moving together and that i'd pick the house etc etc... last night he said he were better off as friends, so i just said i don't wanna give up etc, he replied with that he thought it wasn't working and that we'd tried etc... and then he said he loves me to bits but can't stomach the fighting, he said he wants us without the arguing. I haven't spoken to him all night and day up until just now on MSN, i feel like such an idiot because I told him I wanted to respect him, but then i told him that the silence is killing me, he is giving me one worded answers etc, been really cool with me, i asked him if he was still my boyfriend and he replied yes... i tried to talk to him a bit more but he just isn't saying much so i ended up apologising and saying i shouldnt' be speaking to him i'm sorry... I feel like a complete idiot for doing this and am afraid that me talking to him on MSN is going to ruin my chances...someone please reassure me that i'm not going mental :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone so much for your answers, they have all have really helped me.
And it's great to have a mans perspective on this too thanks hun :)
Thanks so much Allana, i'm going to take that advice, and look at the way i approach topics, i should be more careful and more positive with how i approach things, thanks so much hun :)
Thank you Bubblegirl18 I just need to allow a bit of time so he can recollect on things, I know men are different to us girlies... I just love him so much and feel pretty negative for some reason. But I will try my best
thanks guys xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): he is lucky to have you, if i was his mate i would have slapped him by now. Listen i went through a LDR of FIVE YEARS and it ended about 4 months ago. Dam im still in love with her and i miss her like hell however i was the one that left her, actually it was really a mutual agreement we became freinds. The reason i did this, was because she was still in love with her ex, however she did not want to be with him and wanted to fall in love with me and was not in love with me, but cmon, 5 years together? you would tihnk she would be in love by now! but she wasnt, so i had enough and just walked away, and u know what? 1 month later she began a relationship with her ex. She said she did this because i was not there for her, physically , we both could not take the LDR it was to hard. So now 5 months later, she has broken up with him and annitiating contact with me, why? i have no idea, she not in love with me so what does she want? We talk every now and then but when i talk to her it hurts, not beacuse of what she does, but because i miss her so much and i just want to hold her and be there for her. when i cant. we live to far away. So what im sayin is, dont let him give up and dont give up on him.. because it can work.. fight for it.. i wish i did.
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reader, Allana +, writes (17 November 2009):
Oh sweetheart... Okay, two three you need to do here. First, you write him an email/letter/card and explain to him that you are insecure because you love him so much and it's fear of losing him. Give him an ego boost about how hot you think he looks and how you want that all to yourself. Then apologise and say that you shouldn't inflict the insecurity on him. We all get jealous, my LDR bf ONLY makes friends with girls and his FB page is just chock full of him friending new girls and commenting on their walls/posts etc. Ya gotta keep the green meanies in check, rant and rage about it privately but not to him. Chances are he's never gonna see where you're coming from. Secondly, girl! You need to realise how much more awesome you are than every other girl on his stupid bebo page! Get your raciest underwear, put on your makeup, set up a camera and give him a good couple of reasons why you guys AREN'T better off as friends. Seriously, you gotta show him what he's got because from experience, out of sight can sometimes mean out of mind... Thirdly, and a bit more seriously, you must decide whether you can be with someone who seems unable to deal with arguing. Couplehood is never easy and if there are never any arguments, chances are someone is just bottling up their feelings. What you may need to do is assess 'how' you are bringing up contentious topics, using 'I feel' rather than 'You are' is far less agressive and confrontational and perhaps more likely to yield positive resolution.
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reader, bubblegirl1818  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I know how you feel i felt the same way before. Just tell him that you are sorry and that you were jelous and people do crazy things when there in love but dont be to pushy and let him have his space and cool down and just be like a realy good friend to him till he makes up his mind Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh no we have just ended up fighting on msn and now he says i'm pissing him off a lot and he wants to cool things down with me :( I'm gutted.
i got jealous of him putting a picture of himself up on his bebo page in nothing but a towel and the girls who have just appeared on his page.
I am going mad I feel sick and feel like my heart is breaking
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reader, bubblegirl1818 +, writes (16 November 2009):
im realy sorry to hear this im kinda going threw the same thing and things are just starting to get back on track. I think you should give him some space so he has a chance to miss you but at the same time you dont want him to forget about you so dont give him to much space. I realy hope things work out for you guys. Good luck and remaber just cuz it isnt working out now dosent mean it wont work in the future try to be yourself and positve and he will remaber why he fell in love with you in the first place.
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