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writes: hi you lovely agony aunts out there, i always come on her for help when i need, and feel i need a little reasurring today..., i at the moment feel my relashionship is one sided, me more than him, or could it be in my head, i will tell you how it is and judge for yourselves.. i am with a man who i met on a dating site, we have been together now for over a year and half, in that year and half we have met each other about 7 times, now reason for that, we both have a child each to our ex partners, so can only see each other on school hols, but when we been together his the most loving caring kind man, takes us all out as a family, pays for everything, and i always offer money but he wont take it, tells me to put it away, shows me how he cares with his actions, cant tell me he has a problem with telling his feelings, shows be instead and that saying actions speak louder than words is true, he has text me every t break and dinner break when hes at work since he has met, me talks on msn everynight really committed, so you can imagine i feel i am in love with this man no end, so your probably thinking whats wrong with this girl cant she see its not one sided.. the reason i say that is cause when we are on msn he his so so cold towards me, if i ask him if hes missing me he says no enjoying spreading on my sofa and no kids to go upstairs to every 10 mins, (we are next time introducing house rules with the two kids cause they are running riot at the mo so we come to a descion to bring in some family rules when we are all together) anyway back to the situation, when i asked him another time if he was missing me he said he his not letting himself getting too attached as i am, which really upset me, (his ex was a real evil women put him through a lot of pain he sort of told me some parts of it ) so i think thats the reason why he not getting attached as i am, but it hurts some nights i go to bed crying my heart out after speaking on msn to him, cause hes so cold on there it seems to be me pushing for conversation, which puzzles me cause when we are together we talk all the time hes shy and so am i so when there is a silence not a awkward one its a comfortable one, feel comfortable with him , but i just feel he his hiding something or not letting himself go, scard to love i suppose, his mum sometimes has a chat with me, and she told me more about his ex what hell she put him through, and she did say to me i dont know if he will ever trust a women again, which upset me in a way, so is this in my head or will he ever give his all to me and learn to trust again, i love him so much but hes breaking my heart when he his so cold to me on msn and hardly saying a word on there, i feel next time i see him to have a heart to heart with him on how i am feeing i supposed unloved, he did say to me when we first met any problems i have to speak to him, but its more of a question you dont want to really ask cause your scard of the answer you are going to get, such of if i asked him his he feeling what i am feeling, or i ask you agony aunts is all this in my head hope you can reasure me with some answers thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your reply anonymous female reader, i think you have mistaken my question, when i say i have seen him 7 times, i dont mean just 7 days, what i mean is that on every time i see him, i would spend 2 and 3 weeks with him at a time, so seen him a lot more than 7 days its how you read it, i think thats why you say he dont want to be involved, he has actually introduced me to his mum and dad most of his family part of his friends that recently he took me out with, so i think he does want to be involved and i am with him, hes very committed like i am to him. so maybe i need to write my question a but more cleary next time thanks anyway for your reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): if you have met him only 7 times over an 18 month period,you are not with him. he doesnt want to get involved,thats why you have only seen him 7 times.
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