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female
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26-29,
*mexi kitten
writes:ok im only 13 and i really like this 17 year old. we dated for about 2 weeks then we broke up cause we didnt want to get in trouble and i thought i was ok with it until i seen him then i realized i still like him and hes my next door neighbor and everytime i c him outside i go out and act all sexy and try and get him to notice me. then less than a week after i broke up with him one of my ex's called and he asked me out so i said yes and he was making me mad and trying to get me to do stuff i didnt want to do and hes 13 and i think i love the 17 year old but idk wat to do he nos how i feel and recently i found out he feels the same way except he has a gf and idk wat to do. do i really love him is it love i think of him all the time i talk to him every night and a couple days ago i got a rapest voice mail and he been helpin me thru everything. plz help
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reader, Onlyofyou1039 +, writes (20 August 2008):
no, hun, its not love. Its infatuation. A deep crush. Besides you shouldn't get involved with an older guy. He'll break your heart. Badly. Believe me, he's not interested in you like you think. And if he is then he's a pervert.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Some may disagree with me about this, but I think a lot of people missuse the word "love" and being "in love" a lot.
In my whole opinion, what you have is a strong attraction, a crush, for this guy. You could say that you like this guy, but loving him takes a whole new level that requires time to get.
True love is not how you see it in the movies.
You get true love by the constant communication, compromise, affection, support and other good aspects from being in a relationship, and you only get by experience with your couple.
Finding true love does indeed take time because in a matter of 2 years many things can happen. A couple may have many ups. So many that may make the relationship stronger, but there will also be a lot of ups, and this is where it gets tricky. This is where it defines a couple: the falldowns. It doesn't really matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get up and keep on going. It applies to relationships too. Getting through a crisis is what strengthens a relationship.
So what I'm going to tell you is that no, this is not real love. You have to give it time into the relationship to classify it as such. But it seems to me that you really like the 17 year old guy, so just because someone told you it's not true love yet, that it should make you lose hope. You CAN make it true love, if you work for it.
So what I suggest you to do is talk to this guy and ask him about your relationship with him. Then, when you think the time is correct, ask him if it will be possible for the two of you to go back together. If he says yes, try to work everything out. When you're in a dilema in your relationship, try to see for a solution with your partner. Also, when there's joy in your relationship, share it wit him.
Good luck
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