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writes:Does your boyfriend watch endless hours of tv? I am so sick of it! It is on from the minute he gets home, until he finally falls asleep! We used to have fun together, but now I stay in the living room, on my computer and he stays in the bedroom and watches mindless hours of tv. What can I do? I am so frustrated! Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 We hardly watch tv. We're both musical so he might play the piano whilst Im on the computer or the other way round. Sometimes we just sit and chat or do something with the teenagers. Other times I'll play piano while he strums guitar. At least once a week we walk to our local around 10pm for the last hour, only having a couple of drinks as its more for the social side. At least twice a month the older two babysit the little one and we go for a meal alone and other times we get an outside babysitter and take the teenagers out without the little one. If we do watch telly its usually together and its a film or probably a programme about sealife if hubby gets his way. Or we have friends round. If hubby really wants to watch something and I dont I will read in the same room as him. Other times I go to see friends or he goes to the gym so the other one might sit and watch telly that night athough with 5 of us in the house there is usually washing ironing tidying up etc to do and I will often come home to find he has done housework for me rather than just sit.
The list goes on and on, we are too busy to watch telly much so you just need to make plans and find things you can do together. If you plan something a few times a week to start with you might find he wants to do more. He has got himself stuck in a rut and needs help to get motivated again but keep at it and try and bring some fun back into your life x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 August 2008):
Arrange to do things in advance.
He's probably thinking that you are on your computer so has has nothing else to do but watch tv.
Tell him when you wake up that you want to go to the cinema after work and arrange with him then what to see and tell him you'll check times at work.
If you arrange it over breakfast or text him about doing things during the day then he won't get chance to switch the TV on.
Either that or make Friday "date night" so you both HAVE to go out and do something on a Friday, even if it's just going to a bar for a drink.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Hi,
i am surprised we dont get more questions like this.
The idiot box is a real relationship wrecker.
I think when couples get settled with each other, it is easy to be lazy and forget about spending quality time with together.
Here's what you should do. Tell him you think you should be doing more things as a couple. But have something in mind, because you might get the standard response of "im so tired when i get home, i just want to chill out" .
It is not stressful or tiring to go out to dinner , or have a romantic walk . It is the opposite - relaxing.
Plan a couple of events, don't leave it to him, go ahead and do it.. If he is going to miss his favourite show , record it!
This is the best way to reconnect as a couple. Spend time with each other, you need to work at your relationship to keep the fires burning. Plan a romantic dinner, get a nice bottle of wine, have fun and have a little surprise for him when you get back.. maybe some new lingerie, get him all frisky.. you may just be amazed how quickly he can come around.
But you need to be proactive about it. If you are on the computer use it to look up activities in your local area. Try a few things that you know he will be interested in. Suggesting going out to a play or the theatre is only good if he likes that. It could end up having the opposite effect.
So try something like a football game, or a movie that you know he likes, you could have dinner before or afterwards. Basically anything that will get you both out of the house.
Good luck.
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 lol, yeah, my husband does that, too. But I can drag him out at least once a week.
Go into the bedroom with him, maybe put the moves on him. He'll probably get the point. Just don't whine about it. That'll make him shut down real quick.
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