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writes:I am 14 years old and attend an all-male Catholic highschool. I have been having sexual feelings for some of the boys in my class which I find attractive. I imagine scenarios with them and I wish to at least ^^^ with them or see their junk. I'm not open but I've told my best friend that I'm secretly bi. I don't know if I am or just bi-sexually curious. I sometimes ^^^ with one of my friends (separately under blankets) and I wouldn't mind doing other stuff to him as well, but he's straight. Is this a phase of puberty or am I really bi/gay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): At the age of 17-18 I thought I was bisexual and was looking for a gilrfriend and this kind of affaire. Obviously my best friend and I (both still in puberty I am sure) had a homosexual sex with each other too. We enjoyed it in some drunk way after a party, but we both felt it was against our nature and it didn't work so far. I still like some hot women and they let me feel sex drive, but I don't sleep with them as I know it would be much more uncomfortable for me and sex with men is what I was made for, not with women. God made it that way
And you, please don't tempt your fate, don't ruin your friendship and wait for girls (the cool ones!!), then compairing your menthal feelings you can decide what you desire and really look for
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (17 January 2015):
 My guess is it's more likely just puberty. You have a flood of hormones going through your system and you're not used to them. It usually results in an intense sex drive that feels like it will drive you crazy. If you were in a co-ed environment you'd most likely be directing your interest toward girls, but there aren't any. It's only natural that your mind would turn your desire toward the only thing that's available -- your classmates.
It's almost cliche that boys in English boarding schools turn to each other, and then go on to be quite hetro men. You're hardly the first to feel this way.
Sure it's possible that you're bi. You won't really know until you get out of school and into a co-ed environment (without nuns and priests hanging over you reminding you about mortal sins). Until then, don't fret. The situation you're in is why God gave us masturbation.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2015): It's probably just a fase, and because there are no girls you are turning to the boys. You'll probably get over it soon, but I don't suggest f''''''g with your friend. Maybe ask your parents if you could do an after school activity, that way you can meet more people, maybe even girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2015): I think that if you have these feelings towards boys then you are gay. As a straight girl when I started getting feelings they were towards men, and didn't have any romantic feelings towards girls, so it isn't puberty. I do have friends who had the same feelings around your age and got support from LGBT youth. You can find their website online, they work with young homosexuals and let them discuss their feelings and ask any questions they might have. Please remember if you are gay it is nothing to be ashamed of it is who you are, I can't turn off being straight anymore than you can being gay. I know in the environment you are in the now you may be told otherwise, so please look for LGBT online and they will help you.
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