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writes:I ask this because I want to make sure that I'm being reasonable, because I don't want to be that guy who only thinks of himself.My girlfriend took a picture of me sleeping in my underwear with my hand down my pants (hilarious!). She sent it to some of my family, because she knew that they would laugh. They all thought that it was hilarious. When I found out I told her not to be mad if someone else sees it, since she sent it in a picture message over cell phones. God knows that stuff like that spreads like wildfire. I was very kind. Reassuring her that I was not mad, but I would like her to be a little more modest with it, since I am a bit conservative.She called me furious that more people had seen it. Yelling at me (remember, I had no idea of it... she sent the picture while i was sleeping). She wanted me to be angry with my family over it. I told her that it wasn't his fault, she was the one who sent it to people, but I wasnt mad so its not a big deal.Now she isnt talking to me because I wont blame someone else. I dont even really think it needs to be blamed.Am I wrong?
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reader, uberpinkii  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 hiya,
i know what she wants you to do. she wanted you to tell your family not to spread it around ( wich they shoulnt have done in the first place)
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its her fault, sh should have known this would get around,you say your not bothered by it and you are the better one for this. she is testing to, and wantsyou to tell you family off.
confront her about tis and tell her its her fault n thne u two can build a bridge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Dear Poster
I think her behavior is very immature; she took the picture and spread the picture to other people; hopefully intended as a "joke" and not to try and humiliate or embarrass you; however her behavior as described does not match that of somebody who was just "playing a prank".
I suggest you have a talk to her and let her know that you accepted it as a "joke" however it does not meet with your approval; but she needs grow up and take responsibility for her own actions; she needs to LET IT BE and move ON; you cannot be held responsible for this or for the action of others.
If she does not WAKE Up to reality; vow, I think you have to look at your relationship and make sure you know the person you are involved with.
Keep us posted.
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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reader, mari1021 +, writes (29 September 2008):
 no you are not wrong your girlfriend is over reacting, it is very much so her fault she sent out the text message she should have known it would spread it wasnt corret either for your family to send it out but it all started becasue of her . dont worry about it she will get over it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): It seems her little prank has backfired, i can't understand why she is angry with you!! What she did was wrong and out of order - god if you did it to her there would be uproar! Shes a strange, childish girl and your must be so mixed up right now, i think you have to grow some balls - or bigger balls and stand up to her - tell her that it was a bloody stupid thing to do in the first place and you are the one who should be angry not her - say you peace and then tell her you want to hear no more about it. i cant think of many people who would think her behaviour acceptable tho? maybe you should rethink the whole relationship??
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (29 September 2008):
 No. Sometimes people get mad about stuff that was their fault or partially their own doing. Let her cool off. I like your statement "I don't really think it needs to be blamed," because blaming her (even though she started it) might make her defensive. I think that you are being reasonable.
It sounds like she was trying to test you or something, hoping that you would get mad and try to stop the photo spreading (since you are conservative) but it bit her in the ass and made her mad instead!
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