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writes:I won't go in to too much detail coz I'll be here all night. I was just wondering if it's weird that I'm 21 and never had a relationship. Sometimes I think I don't have time for a boyfriend but a lot of the time I feel really lonely and wonder why I don't have one. I guess it really hit me on valentines day, it was sort of embarrassing when people asked me if I'd gotten any cards or if I was going out with anyone. When I say no I feel like people feel sorry for me coz I'm on my own. It just makes me think sometimes is this not something that should have happened for me by now?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): I'm 22 in am just in my first relationship now. It's being going for a month and a half now, and it's good. I probably went through some of the same things you did.
All through school I didn't really think about people much, and had no interest in relationships beyond friends... it wasn't that I wasn't attracted to people, it was just I didn't have the urge for more.
Last year I started getting that urge, and now here I am in a relationship. DO NOT feel bad. If you want to be in one, find someone special and start one. If you don't want one, don't feel pressured by society to find one just so you'll be "normal" in their eyes. Do what makes you happy and tell anyone who makes you feel bad to fuck off.
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 i understand how it feels to be lonely but if theres no one your interested in, then theres not much point in starting a relationship with them. one day you will find someone your really attracted to, until then be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): There's nothing wrong with you. I had my first (and only) relationship when I hit 21. I'm still with my partner 12 years later and we've been married for 6 years. It will happen but I think, deep down, you're waiting for the right person and so you should. If you're lonely, don't be. Join a club or do something you enjoy that other people are into and that way you're more likely to meet someone with common ground and you'll start as friends too. And even if you don't find the love of your life, you'll make lots of friends. When your circle of acquaintances widens, you're more likely to meet someone who you might like...
And don't worry, there's many of us out there, just like you. You'll connect with someone once you're ready.
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