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writes:HI I have this question that I hope will not be taken the wrong way.My wife and I don't have sex very often but she watches me masturbate myself.It's come to the point that I like to masturbate in front of her rather than have sex.When I'm ready I will just take my clothes off and wank in front of her. She say's that she don't mind me doing that.Also I seem to enjoy watching video's of men masturbating or being masturbated sometimes.Is this normal for a couple to have a sexual relationship in this way? and am I turning gay? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 I wish my husband would masturbate in front of me... he won't... he views it as very private
I on the other hand will masturbate in front of him...
if it's the ONLY sex you have then yes it's not average...
if it's part of a more robust sex life then I don't see a problem with it.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Normal.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar +, writes (10 February 2013):
Normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): I don't think its abnormal. I LOVE to watch my husband masturbate! Its a complete turn on for me. I told him if he does it and I'm not in the mood, I will be in just a second! As as normal, what is normal nowadays anyway? It's whatever works for you. I'm with the last poster, some people really need to understand the difference between SEX and INTIMACY! They are on two totally different platforms. As long as the two of you are happy, who has the right to judge?! Best wishes to you!
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reader, R1 +, writes (9 February 2013):
 Everyone enjoys masturbating as no one knows your body like yourself, but you are losing the intimacy with your wife that sex brings. She is probably fine with it now but give her a few years and she'll be posting on here about lack of sex life!As for turning gay, only you know that. Do you want to be with a man rather than a woman? That might mean you are gay, just getting turned on by sexual acts simply means you are a man with a sex drive!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 February 2013):
 You are watching the action of a man enjoying himself, or a woman giving him a handjob. I doubt you would like watching a man masturbating another man, or you yourself desiring touching another man's penis. Nothing can turn you gay unless you were that way before you dated women. Most of us are somewhat bisexual anyway and choose straight relationships.
I think it is very normal. Sexless relationships can also be normal although it's what people dread the most. It's good that your wife cares about your sex life by watching you pleasure yourself when she is not in the mood always. It's much better than feeling deprived when the other rolls off to sleep. Whatever works for you. I can't imagine why some married couples just completely avoid each other as if insertion is the only thing that counts as intimacy.
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