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anonymous
writes:hi! i have a question... today, my boyfriend and I were just watching tv. then, things led to another, and he started fingering me. im a virgin, so it hurt, and felt good at the same time. then, when everything was done i realized i was bleeding. it that normal? how long will it bleed for? i feel weird; it doesnt feel like it usually does! and im i still a virgin? please answer! im confused and young, and never had sexual experience!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): i guess you will only know when you have "real" sex. then if you bleed, it means you were still a virgin but if you don't then you were no longer a virgin. as long as you liked it, you won't regret it.
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reader, jerseysitalian  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 he popped your cherry. but i think if you have sex it wont hurt since he already poped it. I THINK
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): You are definately still a virgin honey. The only way you can lose it is if you get penetrated with a penis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): Sorry to tell you that tou are no longer a virgin, but not because your bf popped your cherry with his finger, for that can happen, horse back riding, riding a bike, gymnastics well you get the point, the term virgin means pure or un altered but when referring to a woman or a man it means having contact in a sexual manner, so he fingered your virginity away, the only difference between a finger and a penis is that he cant urinate or ejaculate, but you were penetrated if he had done it with out consent it would be considered rape therefore the fact that there was consent makes it sex, it just wasn't as gratifying for him.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 I believe that you're still a virgin, because your boyfriend hasnt properly penetrated you yet, but I do agree with happytochat, there are many views on whether you're still a virgin, but my personal opinion, yes you are. :)
You're bleeding because he may of actually gone in too far.
Dont worry, it happens to every girl. :)
Take Care xxxx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Hi, that is normal the bleeding is bound to last for 2 days the most. Dont be scared everything is still fine.i agree that you are only not a virgin if a guy penetrates you.
Good Luck.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (27 July 2007):
It sounds to me like the reason why you are bleeding is because your bf broke your hyman when fingering you.
Traditionally, people would define the term virgin as not having your hyman broken, and once it was, you woudlnt be a virgin anymore. However these days, peoples views of what is a vrigin and whats not can vary quite a bit. Some say you arent a virgin if your hyman is broken, however this can be broken thorugh many other things other then sex, such as finger, exercise and even just puting tampons in. So personaly I do not agree wiht that view. I would say you aren't a virgin once you have a guy penetrate you wiht his penis. So in my opinion you are still a virgin.
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reader, lovesickpup +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Hi there,
my friend went through the same thing but i know from experience that you cannot lose your virginity through someone fingering you basically what has happened as he was fingering you his nails scratched against your inside wall which made you bleed i know this from experience with my boyfriend next time ask him to be careful and take his time
hope that helps
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (27 July 2007):
 ok its ok. its normal to bleed he may have gone in to far and yes you are still a virgin as you have not had sex yet. so don't worry and it normal to be a bit freaked out, by all of this. good luck
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