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writes:My sister broke up with her boyfriend because he was cheating and so I've been spending all my time with her. She's really upset and has been crying a lot so I've just being telling her I love her and taking care of her. The last couple of nights she's been coming into my bed and sleeping in my bed with me, this morning she was spooning me. she says she doesn't want to be on her own and that I'm the only person that loves her. She's 21 and I'm 19
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Hi it sounds as if shes using you as a security blanket at the moment. I wouldnt be too worried about it. If you feel uncomfy with her sleeping like that and dont want to hurt her feelings. Tell her you arent sleeping very well what with sharing your bed. Then go out and buy her a big ole Teddy Bear to cuddle up to at night in her bed. Shes just feeling a bit low at the moment and needing some security x
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 March 2010):
I don't really think it's "normal" or "common." I guess everyone handles things like this differently and I don't doubt that it does happen. I don't think your sister is trying to put the moves on you or anything, but I have 2 older sisters and I don't think you'd catch any of us spooning one another in bed regardless of the situation. But if the spooning makes you uncomfortable, just tell her.
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reader, purplewasabi +, writes (23 March 2010):
 You're a safe presence to your sister, no doubt; she can rely on you not to hurt her and not to judge her. (: It's an amazing relationship ! If it does make you uncomfortable then just either ask her to resist, or encourage her further to sleep in her own bed for independence; she needs support and encouragement right now.
Reading up, I notice this has been said almost word by word. Ah well.
Good luck with your sister. :)
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