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writes:So I I've Been talking to this guy on and off for over a year now.. We fight all the time about nothing. We never really hung out before so we decided to a few days ago. To me things went great. We joked around and had a great time and we kissed for the first time. Then the next day we kind of hung out but we had to stay at this barn for stock show.. He went through my phone and found some old pics of these guys I use to talk to like months before. He made jokes about it but he seemed pretty upset. Then towards the end of the night he told me that us fighting might be a sign.. And that I don't act like I like him.. But I do.. I tell him that I like him almost every day. I got really upset and my friend got mad so he texts him and told him not to mess with my mind like that. He told my friend that the reason we wouldn't work is cuz of my friends... But I don't think that's the problem! I just wanna know if I need to fix things or if it's him and I can't do anything about it
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 To be honest i wouldnt put the blame on you or him. Its just one of these things, maybe a clash of personalities. The one thing that was done that was wrong was your friend texting him. This should never have happened because a relationship is between two people and no third person should involve themselves. The guy could have felt really intimidating from this guy texting him like that. Sur turn to your friends and talk to them and let them be there for you but never let them get involved.
Ok so my guesses are that he found these photos and automatically thought the worst and felt that you may have been meeting these guys as well and he probably backed of a little bit as he is scared of getting hurt. Am sure he wasnt trying to mess with your head he was probably trying to protect himself from getting hurt therefore this is the reason your friend shouldnt have got involved because he will tell himself now that whatever happens between you and him your friends will be on his back as well.
I think what you need to do is to text him and apologise for your friend texting but tell him that you felt hurt and that you do really like him and that you are not seeing any other guys. Tell him you really want to meet up with him more to see how you both can get on and tell him you are really serious about him and there is no other men you are interested in.
Goodluck.
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