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female
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26-29,
*lgardner1
writes:So there is this man I have been friends with for a few months. We started out just getting to know each other, small talk, being coordial. Recently, I can tell he has gotten more comfortable with me, which is great. He is not a touchy person with a lot of people that I've noticed. Recently he has started to hug me, put his hand on my shoulder, typical friend stuff. But I am starting to notice that he has been kissing me on the cheek and just yesterday he randomly reached over and placed his hand on my knee while sitting next to me. I am all for being friends but he seems to be touching me where other friends just don't. I don't know if he is just really comfortable with me or if he is trying to make a move on me? Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2017): Just yesterday. Funnily enough. I touched someone's knee. She seemed uncomfortable and so I (in a friendly way) touched her knee to re-assure and made her laugh. She blushed. I don't know why?
But this guy!
He needs to get a grip. he should ask if he can kiss you. Friends cuddle and they do kiss but it seems that you are upset or fancy the pants off of of him and can't interpret him. You did say it was "great"
I mean
Why don't you be honest for once and talk to him. you are - after all - apparently "friends"??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2017): He's being overly friendly. In fact, he's making inappropriate passes; and if he is an older-guy, he's being an opportunistic old lech.
If he places his hands on you; step-back a step, or remove it. Pulling away sends a direct message. It is not appropriate to place your hands on a lady; unless you are dating, and she allows it.
Don't accept his hugs nor his kisses. Extend a hand for a handshake and establish a boundary. Place distance between you, and keep it there. He has crossed the line, now you have to push him back. You gave him an inch, and he took a mile.
He's wise to the fact you're not exactly sure if what he's doing is appropriate; but you're a smart young lady, you felt in your gut he was taking liberties.
You may politely remove a man's hand when he places it on you without permission. If he persists, clearly and firmly ask him to please keep his hands to himself.
It is a violation of your personal-space for him to be touching you. It is presumptuous to assume it's okay only because you're cordial or friendly. That's not an invitation to paw all over you. He's being creepy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 July 2017):
 Friends don't TOUCH and grope and kiss because they are OH SO comfortable with each other.
Hugs? maybe. But the rest? No.
He is either testing YOUR boundaries or trying in a not so subtle way to let you know he is interested in something physical with you.
Are you interested in him? If so, why not ask him out for a cup of coffee/ice cream or whatever.
If you are NOt interested tell him to keep his mitts off.
You do know that YOUR body is yours and it's OK to tell people to NOT touch you? Right?
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