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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone.. Hoping someone can pint me in the right direction here!I met this guy on Tinder about 3 weeks ago. We've met each other twice, once just for coffee and then a proper date which lasted hours. It was really fun and we've been getting on really well.From the beginning we were texting each other nearly the whole time but for the past few days its tapered off abit. Not that we're not texting anymore just not as much as before. Im confused because he has already told he he'd like to meet up again but I feel like the lack of contact is a bit strangeWhat do you think?
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (9 June 2014):
 Ive not used Tinder (so it wasn't me LOL) but I do use internet dating sites.
I know from my own experiences that meeting someone off social media or the dating websites often causes the situation you have described.
I have met many women who I felt I got on really well with, we chatted for hours, we kissed and cuddled....then silence. Its part of it im afraid. People give it a date or two to see if they like the other person and then either see them again or vanish, rarely did I get someone actually tell me they didn't think we were compatible.
The other thing about meeting someone via Tinder/dating sites is that the other person may well be chatting to several people at once. They may arrange three or four dates in a week. This is a normal, acceptable part of it as you don't know until you meet a person if you will get along, so its better to keep the options open. It may be that after a couple of dates he met with someone else who he felt he got along better with? It might just be that he is now less sure that you are what he is looking for?
I would back right off and see if he makes the effort to arrange something, if he doesn't you know he either isn't interested and was being polite when he said he wanted to see you again, or that he has met someone else.
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2014): 1. They might just want sex and realise you want more and they are trying
to break it off gently.
2. They have possibly met someone else.
3. It's not what you think and he's just busy.
4. Other.
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