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writes:I am in my late 20's and started Uni this year. I seem to have developed a big fat stupid crush on my tutor....I think it's a crush anyway! I have a long term boyfriend, who I love...but I never stop thinking about my tutor. He is handsome and always looks me in the eye and smiles when he talks. At first I just thought he was a nice person, but now I just find myself missing him when he isn't there. I find myself wanting him none stop.I haven't told anybody about this as it seems so childish, but the other day one of my friends made a comment saying he must like me as he seems to pay me a lot of attention. When I bump into him outside of lessons, he will stop me and talk to me, asking how I am etc which just leaves me feeling weak! In all honesty, he must either be married or gay! he is too good to be single that's for sure. He is funny, obviously intelligent, he knows how to keep my attention that's for sure, and did I mention good looking?I don't know what i'm asking for as I like thinking about him, he makes me smile and feel warm inside. However I realize if my partner thought I had my mind elsewhere he would walk out.How do I overcome this crush I am having?
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reader, rainglitter  +, writes (14 December 2014):
Can I ask you an honest question that I really hope for you to think about instead of actually answering.. Do you thin you are the only person he is this way towards? What about outside school, ever thought about how he is outside school, outside his role as teacher?It is a crush for sure, least too say it seems like it. But I wouldn´t be so forward if I was you. Next time you see him in class or down the hall, don´t feel guilty for not being so "nice" and smiley towards him. And be careful, for both of your sake. If your friends have noticed, then the chances are more likely that many others have too. And he doesn´t know what you and your friends have talked about and once he finds out that you girls are talking about these kinds of things, he will for sure be more careful too. He would never want to risk his career.I had a crush on one of my teachers in high school. He was very young and extremely, extremely good looking, many girls in school had these kind of crushes on him, but he had a special look that he gave me, a special smile and it was a chemistry between us, undeniable. However, I realized eventually ( thanking god for that) that he actually liked me because of how I was. My friends were very loud and noisy, barely did their homework and were very into guys in class rooms, whereas I was the quite girl that most guys wanted to date but never could ( my parents didn´t allow me to date guys lol ) so I guess I was more of that "good-girl/ beautiful down to earth girl" and he as the adult one liked that.. What happened was that I stopped paying attention to him when he talked "directly to me". I stopped looking at him when he talked, I was still very polite and smiled with my mouth shut ( you know: not like this :D but like this :-l lol) and he eventually picked up on the same thing and the chemistry cooled down, I grew up and he one day introduced his girlfriend to us all - first me before class began ;-)..I know that feeling, but I advice you to be careful. I was in high school when taking the above decision to take a step aside from the crush and if I could do it at that age, I think you can too.. Try to act cool and calm, and let the situation lead you out of the awkward conversations or looks.. It will be better on both ends. Good luck
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