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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and its been amazing we're both so happy. But the last month we're constantly fighting and on and off, but we don't last an hour without gettin back together. Is it time to call it a day or how do we get over this? It has me very emotionalThanksM Reply to this Question
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reader, danny365  +, writes (4 December 2010):
i guess its just a phase, try n talk things out mayb therz more than meets the eye. See if he is stressed out with sumthng, tell him if you are. According to me one an half years of being together warrants this much effort atleast.
Dont lose hope, ie if u love him
gud luck
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Every relationship has its own time of hardship. Try to talk to him about it, when you feel as though it is going to turn into another anger flooded argument, stop and wait a moment to cool your tongues. Then when you are both ready and calm, begin to talk again.
What exactly do you tend to argue about? Anything serious? Perhaps there is a way to avoid such topics. If the fights are about generally irrelevant things, perhaps it is because either one of you are going through stressful times? Whatever the case, perhaps you should try to see less of each other until you are able to talk about this.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 i do hope it only means you are both a little in the doldrums, and perhaps have some other pressures that are wearing you both down.
Perhaps try negotiating and allowing a little flexibility into decisions. Winning the argument is not as important as working out equitable (fair, not equal) solutions that respect each other's interests, motivations and concerns.
Can you determine who is starting the fights and who is reacting to it? Or is it equally 50/50?
Because some people choose to start fights with a view to irritating a partner. To the extent that the partner calls it quits.
Then the original initiator of the aggression blames the breakup on the one who called it quits, even though
the aggressor started the fights in the
first place.
Good luck, and i hope it works out
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