Is this guy not into me because I'm pregnant?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

ok theres this guy i grew up with, small town, itll be 3 yrs ago in jan that we had really hung out, he had been in Iraq n lived in Arizona at the time, but was back to visit family. well we had be talking back and forth for a couple weeks so i invited him over one night, he came over to my apartment, we drank played rock band, i couldn't tell if he was flirting, for some reason he asked how old i was n i told him i was 18, and he had this kind of disappointed look on his face, he's 9 days short of being 6 yrs older then i am,he stayed over nothing happened, he slept on my couch. He text me the next morning after i went to work and it said "babe,it's where i woke up this morning, what's it doing there?" i was a little confused and figured it was to someone else. We didn't talk much after that he went back to AZ we both dated other people, I had gotten pregnant by an ex who isn't in the picture. well he moved back here this last Jan, and we talked a little bit, but it became more frequent. Pretty much everyday, but i was always starting the conversation. he'd send winking faces, smile faces over text which my cousin said he was flirting. When my cousin invited me out one night she also invited him knowing that i had developed feelings for him. He came out, sat by me, we talked, after him going outside for a cigarette (basically the only thing i hate about him by the way) he came in and put his hands on my neck, im thinking because they were cold? i don't know i wasn't complaining. We ended up going to a mutual friend's house that night and while we were there some of the people were introducing themselves and their wives, we introduced ourselves and a guy asked him if i was his wife, i said no he said yes. we left at the same time but went our separate ways. I wasn't expecting to talk to him unless i saw him again or if i text him. well he text me just out of the blue the next day. we talked for a couple hours and text back n forth the next couple days, well that fri. i was invited from my aunt to go out again, so i invited him, and he said "possibly :)" i figured he wouldn't, but i was once again wrong he showed up maybe 30 mins after i got there. we were there for hours, had conversations about stuff i never thought we would, when everyone was doing shots he bought me sierra mist shots, knowing i was pregnant. We left n went to my cousin's, he road with me after all he had been drinking, on the way there he asked me about my ex, baby daddy, and asked if we would ever get back together n i told him no because i was scared of him, he asked y i told him he had hit me, and he said "if i ever got into a situation where i was scared like that to call him because he wouldn't have it." we went inside laughed he told us that his sister was thinking about moving back and that then I'd get the chance to know her, she was the oldest and had moved before i got the chance to know her. he seemed to had been flirting, but the next day i text him n nothing. the day after he commented on a fb status of mine, but just about the sierra mist shots, the day after that i text him telling him how i felt, but if he didn't feel the same way i didn't want it to be weird between us and we could still be friends. he never answered. since then we haven't talked much, when we see each other in town we say hi and thats it, if we talk more we end up talking about the shots and the weird conversation we had at the bar n that we should do it again. but thats it. my cousin seems to think its because im pregnant, that he'll come around after i have the baby. is that why hes been quiet around me, but not around anyone else? i can't seem to get him off his mind, iv tried talking to other guys,like moving on, but it doesn't work, he always pops up. I'm not sure what to do, what to think, I need help!! again sorry it's long

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