Is this guy interested in me or not?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

There is this guy at work but we don’t work in the same building. The place I work has facilities all over. I first started thinking he liked me when I noticed him staring at me then he looked away. So then another time I said hello and he kind of stuttered and just said good morning. Then another time I said hi and he said hey and my name with a big smile on his face. So whenever I see him he always says hey and my name. He never stops and wants to chat. So I decided to email him because he recently moved to the other facility. We use to be in the same building but I never saw him and he is a fairly new employee. He answered with about two sentences. I emailed him one more time and he did not respond. He still said hey even after the email. So then one time we have an instant messenger at work and I sent him a message. I asked him how his job was going and he responded that it was going good and that he is really busy because he started a new job and was still working his old job. So I left him alone after that. So three to 4 months later I decided to ask him out to lunch on the weekend because we both work at different facilities and I don’t think he has time. He never answered my email and I don’t know if he got it or not. So I gave him about 4 weeks to respond and he never did. So I instant messaged him if he got my email and he never responded. After that it was a month since I saw him again and he still said hey. So I was relieved. So my guessing If he likes me has been going on for about 6 months now. I guess my answer could be obvious but he does things that confuse me. When we see each for the first time on a day we both just stare at each other for a few seconds and then we just look away. I was thinking maybe he was shy. He seems to talk well to employees when he fixes their computers, does that mean he is not shy then?. When he comes to my area I catch him a few times looking in my room. I don’t know if that means anything. He knows what is in there and there is nothing in there he needs. I almost ran into him once and he didn’t hurry up to get away. I don’t know if he has a girlfriend or not. He is younger then me. I have tried to strike up a conversation with him but he seems to be really busy with work. I know he is truly busy/ Someone at work told me that he seems too distracted when she tries to talk to him. Its an older lady. I don’t know if he just doesn’t want a relationship or he doesn’t want to date someone from work or he just doesn’t like me. I am so confused. I have read on the internet that a guy would pursue you if he was interested but is there a difference if its at work or if their shy? I have waited for him to make a move but he never has. Is the staring a good thing or a bad thing? Is it normal for a guy to say hey and your name? I am very shy myself and it took a lot of guts for me to ask him out to lunch. He might think I am agressive but I am not. I have given plenty of time to make a move and he has not. So is it obvious to say he has no interest in me? I would love to hear your thoughts, please answer. Its driving me crazy not knowing if he likes me or not. I am too nervous to ask him and I hardly ever see him.

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