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writes:I've been dating this guy for 7 mths now. He definatley told me that he's not ready for a long term relationship. Last night he told me jokingly "I own you" (which he says this often). And I said "No you dont". What gives? He doesnt want me seeing anyone else. but since he told me he doesnt want a relationship I feel like I have every right to. Correct? And on top of this he doesnt have alot of money and he asks me to buy him stuff all the time! I did help him out in the beginning with some money but I've stopped it.Now he's telling me all these expensive gifts he wants for christmas! Is this guy being a jerk or what? Thanks for the advice.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hit the door running! It sounds like he is a controlling person and wants what he wants. He isn't willing to give you the emotional stability or anything else connected in a Healthy Relationship. Although it's a nice gesture to give to the man we are involved with, most men don't want the woman to give, they want to do the giving.
From the sounds of things he isn't capable of taking care of himself and has no intentions in the long haul of even meeting you half way. Shake him loose and let him fall! Fine someone who is worthy of your time, affection and your GIFTS! Someone who is most likely to give back in return.
Of course he doesn't want anyone else to have you, because if they have you he doesn't and he won't reap the benefits of what you already give. Which is unfair to you and keeps him in the POWER POSITION in this relationship. A Healthy Relationship needs a BALANCE of everything that comes within the realationship. Don't let him take your self-worth and POWER away. Find someone else and maybe by next Christmas you will have someone who is Just What You Wanted Santa to Bring! Not to mention someone better suited and a Godsend.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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