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writes:i know a guy. we met online 3 yrs ago. he gave me his no. and asked me to call him up. i did and we would talk regularly. but then we had an argument and we stopped talking.i liked him but he had said something rude. he was 18 then i guess. we lost contact. then he started writing to me online.. i didnt answer him. but he would write always.so one day i replied but he wouldnt talk after that.. the same thing happened always. now he's 21 and i thot about him.. and i wanted to talk to him.. so i asked him his no. and i confronted him about the way he had talked to me.. he was like i dont even remember, i never said that and im sorry..i was planning not to talk to him after that but he send me a msg in my cell.. and i tried ignoring him but he was really sweet... he would always send a msg in the morning.. and a missed call.. so we started talking and i started sharing stuffs with him.. and he started telling me stuffs about himself.. seems he had a tough childhood.. his parents divorced wen he was a kid.. and he has lived in a boarding school.. to be honest i just wanted to be friends because i seemed to have a crush but i didnt trust him...he started making jokes of us being a couple etc.. and started flirting a lot... then one day he told me he would be going abroad to study.. and i was like if i got the chance i wud go.. and he asked me to come with him... im 22.. and we are at different places right now.. im trying to find internship/work.. so he's also asked me to come to the place where he's at... cos there are better oppurtunities of work there .. and that he would help me.. ive seen his photos and we have a few common friends..my question is simple... is he a jerk or not? shud i trust this guy... i met him online and i basically know what he's told me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx a lot. i was letting my infatuation get in the way. now atleast i know that my instincts were telling me the right thing. great help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 April 2010):
I wouldn't get involved with him. your instinct is telling you something is wrong, and I agree that there is something wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): You've only ever talked over the phone, texted, emailed? You've never spent time together in person? At all?
Why in the world would you go spend time with him abroad if you've never hung out with him in person, if you really don't trust him, and even in your spotted phone/email friendship you had trouble?
Just think about whether you really want to drop everything here to go abroad and be with someone you don't even really know.
(And not to be judgmental, but I've heard way worse sob stories. I hope he wasn't trying to get sympathy from you based on his story, because then there is somethng wrong with this guy).
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Don't get involved. It sounds like you don't know him enough and you are letting your crush guide your decision. His actions up until now are unpredictable.
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