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writes:I recently got into a fight with a girl I know about what she does. Basically, she sleeps with men for money and she leads others on by pretending she is interested in them. She sort of is, but when they get too close she pulls back----but only after she gets meals, and money from them.It's not the sleeping with men that bothers me as much as the emotional component involved. She gets them emotionally attached to her through sex----all the while she is able to keep her emotions out of it. And then she has them on a hook.She did not want to talk about it anymore and the conversation ended with us leaving each other.My question is:Yeah, I know it's her life, but is what she is doing EVIL or is it just flirtatious and a survival mechanism?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Im not going to say she has low self esteem, on the contrary I imagine she has a rather great self esteem. Girls with low self esteem typically will cling to any guy who wants her and stick to him no matter what an arse hat he is.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 January 2011):
It could be perceived as she is evil, like you say, but I think it could be more that she has low self-esteem and milks the attention, but gets scared when it comes to commitment.
Sleeping with men for money is prostitution and again that I would put down to low self-esteem.
If she doesn't want to talk about it, there's little you can do, but at least you've tried
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 January 2011):
It's not evil. Those men will get by, and may I add have had a little taste of their own medicine. It's not nice, but women and men alike get played like this all the time. Let those guys be responsible for themselves, it's not your battle.
You've done what you can, expressed your concern abuot her behaviour. But thats also all you can do, and shouldn't bring it up again. She now knows how you feel. Any more debate on the matter is not needed, and if you do continue to push this the friendship may well end.
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