A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I wrote the following email to a friend, of whom was a girl, lets call her girl B, I wrote the email at the start of my first proper relationship with a beautiful girl i met, lets call her girl A, this was written within 2 weeks into our relationship:i dont have the actuall email but it went something like this,i said that girl B was beautful, that she shines under a rainbow, that shes my a muffin, then i started to talk on and on until i said that i thought girl A is jelous if she found out about this email because we both didnt like it when we talked about the opposite sex, i said that i love girl A and that we're gonna get married, i also said that girl A is a bit childish ( i regret saying all these stupid things so much ) i ended with saying "wuv you" then bye.The reason i wrote this email was simply because this friend, girl B, had just lost her husband.But my foolishness made me write some mean things about girl A, which i realised after i have wirtten it. After writing it, Girl A, my love, found out about it, and said that i was cheating. Ever since then shes been upset, and its been almost 7 months that i've been hurt for writing it. whats hurt her the most was because i wrote "wuv you" in the end, and she thinks now that i really actually loved her! I swear that i never knew writing this was cheating and i want to find out if it was, i've done everything i can to show her that i love only her, i sent her flowers, gave her a gold ring, engraved her name on a necklace, send her dozens of cards, ive sent chocolates, teddy's, everything, and she just cant seem to forgive me for it, i've emailed girl B back and told her i cant ever talk to her again and that i cant be friends with her, and girl B replied and said okayy , and Girl A read that email to, i even sent her another email swearing at Girl B, because girl A thought that even though i told her i cant be her friend, that i still love her. I've done everything girl A wants to show her that i love only her, and that im not a cheater, i even let her write what i wrote to someone else, but she didnt do it, i just want her to get past this, I love her so much, shes going to leave me if this is really cheating, so i want to know if im a cheater...
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You havent cheated you made a mistake which you now realise and wish you could take it back. The only thing I can suggest to you hunny is you sit down with her and tell her everything you said here, Tell her how bad you feel now..Your girl is going through an insecurity stage I dont no if she has been hurt before love, If so this could be alot to do with the reaction. Talk to her tell her no one could or ever would take her place that she is your life and you made a mistake hunny, Its not such a big one love but to her it is...We all cope and take things differently..And if she really cant see how sorry and upset this is making you sweetheart then you have to think to yourself honestly if you can cope with this as its going to be tough if she cant forgive as forgivness is the key to being happy within, We all at some point in our lives make mistakes its part of learning...I wish you luck hunny and I hope she can see this for what it actually is and that is a mistake that ment nothing and she means a whole lot more and could very well be with someone alot less understanding... WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, whateveryousay  +, writes (24 May 2008):
 you are def not cheating! ive done that millions of times to boys i felt bad for. tell her why you sent it and be totally honest. im not much help here, i know, but its the best i can do. best of luck and email me if anything else happens.
xoxo,
whateveryousay
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