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writes: been checked out: clean.I've never had sex without a condom thus wasn't worried. had sex with my boyfriend before but it was gentle, slow. recently hes taken to fingering me with more than two fingers and it hurts alot, he tends to do it before im wet and it makes me sore but also after this and eventually sex there is always blood on the condoms, and ive bled on my bedsheet during sex and he gets some on his hand. i suggested that maybe his fingernails are to long or something and he protests he doesn't have any. with previous boyfreidns ive never had this problem and it has me worried that something is wrong with me. i am on the jab as well and due for another one, he wants sex without condoms and keeps insisting on it though when i say no he doesn't push me into it. ive said if he wants to then he needs to get checked out and i need to have another jab as it is more effective than the condom anyway. i want sex though because i am left sore after it's making it harder for me to get turned on. the bleeding is fairly light and does eventually stop.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (19 October 2009):
You should see the doctor. Im not saying that because I think there is something dangerously wrong, but I am saying it because with any medical question you should seek professional advice. Even if someone here was speaking from personal expeirence- you cant go on what they say because every person is different and for every symptom (such as bleeding) there is hundreds of possible causes and solutions. So you should really see a doctor.
As for your bf wanting sex without a condom...are you sure hes not pressuring you? You say he is persistent in asking...yet he stops when you say no? Well if he asks another time...id consider that pressuring. When you say no that means no. He obviosuly thinks he will be able to change your mind in the future and thats not a good sign.
His reaction to you suggesting maybe his fingernails were wrong isnt a good response either. He didnt seem very sympathetic.
If you bleed again, stop!! Dont continue. The damage could get worst.
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (18 October 2009):
That happens with me too during intercourse, I tend to bleed and have cramps a couple of days after, and it isn't very pleasurable when that happens. I was checked out by my doctor and she said I was okay. I would go see your doctor, just to get checked out. I would always use protection, never have sex without it, you never know when your BC could fail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): I suggest you get check. I don't know why ur bleeding but it doesn't sound normal. Stop having sex till u see a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): it sounds like hes just hurting you its a very sensative area so tell him to use less fingers get him to pplay with your clit to get you really wet first
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