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writes:I just need to get my feelings out so if anyones got any advice on how to get through this, or have been in this just leave advice or tips please :(well im going trhough depression, aniexty and low self esteem.ive honestly never felt so ugly, i have really short rhianna hair which im growing out. I hate it i feel so unattractive and no guys look at me twice anymore.Although everyone says it suits me im obvisley not looking that good, if i was a boy i wouldnt look at me twice tbh.I find it so hard to go out the house, going to college is the worst, i just gpo to college crying and get on the bus crying. I cant take it anymore.Its not that i just feel ugly, but its the way i look, im mixed race and look abuit like rhianna , i hate rhianna. hate the music, hate her style , eveything.I love rock music, and gigs etc.And i cant display who i am on the outisde becuase im mixed race and i cant do anythign with y hair , i want ti longer so i can punky it up and feel girly.But it will take forever to grow.to make matters worse ive never had a boyfriend, only one guy that lead me on, slept with em and enevr spoke to me again. All my mates have boyfriends and im the only single one whjo never has anyone to talk about, which pretty much proves me to i cant gte anyone and the wya i feel about myself is true.Im constaly comparing myself to people, and just search pretty girls on google and look at my friends facebook wishing i was them and trying to make myself look like them. even though il never look anything like them.Im totally losing it, i just want to stay in bed and never get up, i hate seeing my relfection and other people seeing me.I havent been out the house paart from college for about 5 months, i hate being around epopel becuase ni feel like im awful to be around, and even when im outting on an act, i just want to cry and i feel so miserable inside even when im smiling. my friend suffers from low self esteem but she has a boyfriend who loves her , and always tells her shes beautiful. I've got nobody to even pay me abit of attention. No guys to text, nobody to flirt with me. I feel so alone and ugly.Any advice?
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reader, bibine  +, writes (24 December 2009):
I know how you girls feel well I've never really have a boyfriend, I've never kiss one.And that makes me feel ugly,fat and unapproachable. I feel like crying all the time. I don't have the perfect body and that makes it even worst. I know I seem desperate but I try to love myself everyday. I've started to put some make up on now. lol. I never used to. I have also try to get over a crush that I have right now on my school quarterback. He is really cute, and we have one classe together but he doesn't even know I exist. So instead I try to occupied myself to not think about him. But to tell you the truth some time I just want to stay in bed and never get up, just because he doesn't notice me. I'm feeling really depressed right now and I just don't know what to do to get his attention. I'm I just that ugly that no guys wants to approach me, because I'm a really nice girl, I think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): OMG this is how i feel bit im black... i feel the same ut at least you have had sex i feel so left out... no BF and im the onli 17 yr old virgin in my group... i cant even gt a boy 2 use me for sex! everybody well females are always saying my pretty, if i meet a new girl they will say it sumtyms i will gt stopped and told.. so if i am why dont boys see t and ask me out?
sometimes it makes me wanna kill myself...im quite a big person (UK Size 14) but stl smaller than the UK advage which is a 16. i just wish i could find sumone to love me!
YOUR LUCKY ID DO ANYTHIN 2 BE MIXED RACE AND I MEAN ANYTHING!
ive considered using lighting creams but im scared there burn my face or give me cancer lool but 2bh its getting to a stage where i dnt care i just wish i wasnt black.. no1 seems to like me and mixed girls gt more atetion no matter how fat or ugly they are!
if u want to talk more email me it would be good 2 be able to talk 2 sombdoy outside my group.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): That certainly is a heavy load that you are walking with and the truth is there are other perspectives that can be chosen instead that embrace the beauty that you really do possess; on the inside and the out:). There are classes in most communities that focus on self esteem and a referral can usually be given through a professional such as a doctor. Try looking in the mirror each day and finding one thing that you like about yourself. How about telling yourself each day that you 'Love yourself'. It is important for you to begin the process of learning to love yourself. Sending you good thoughts...
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reader, Nic390 +, writes (19 October 2009):
 For one it's whats on the inside that counts and for two im sure you look fine. Sometimes you don't see it but there are guys checking you out. If you really don't think you look good you could get a make over but i'm sure you don't even need that.
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reader, Kendra0589 +, writes (19 October 2009):
 I know exactly how you feel because I feel the same sometimes. All of my friends have boyfriends but I'm the only one left out. The guys that do pay me attention only want one thing. The best advice I can give to you if love who you are no matter what. I know this sound hard right now but you must.. If you feel badly about yourself others will feel the same way. You have to get out the house you can't meet someone that way. Flirt have fun sometimes we as women can't expect men to approach us all the time. Right now I like a guy that doesn't even care I exist after we had sex and that's killing me. Having a boyfriend is nice sometimes I guess.. you just have to find someone that respects you. Good luck! Hope i helped.
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