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writes:Im going to be completely honest because i genuially want to know what's wrong with me. I think i may have an eating disorder. Do i?I am 10 and half stone, 5ft 7inches and generally im not very happy with my image, theres quite a few things id change if im honest but these changes would most likely involve plastic surgey. Except my weight i relised thats something i can change myself without the extremes of surgey however im afraid it became extreme in itself i have starved myself on ocassions untill it reached a point where it was too hard to avoid eating e.g. when it got to the weekends and i didn't spend most of my day at school. I was happy to go home and weigh myself and notice a change, it made me look better and my skin better (clearer). It has been a long time now since ive gone for a certain amount of time without eating however it is what i think about constantly... i come up with days when id be able to achieve the longest time but things stop me at times like knowing ive got plans e.g. a meal out, a party, going to friends... places i know i won't be able to keep not eating up. I know its wrong and i relise there're health issues but i want to get to a certain weight and be happy and not look at photos of me and think who is that fat gigantic person? thats when id stop... when im happy! Reply to this Question
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reader, anon642 +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Hello sweetie :)
My heart goes out to you, seriously. There are so many girls in the same position as you and the reality is..you sound perfectly healthy as you are.
What you must remember is that you are 5ft7, you may grow another inch or two until you reach adulthood but you may not, but what i'm saying is that you must take your weight into consideration when looking at your weight, you cannot compare yourself to someone who's shorter and a stone and a half lighter than you..because they are that way for a reason..they are shorter and therefore are a different bone structure to you. And please do not take that as me telling you that your too tall, because you definately are not. Its nice to have a good height on you, you actually have a really ideal height :)
Anyway back to weight, your only young, give it a year or two and then make decisions about your weight. The people in your life are silly if they think you need to lose weight, your just right, not overweight and not ridiculously slim. Your healthy. Keep it that way :)
Skipping meals and starving yourself is really not a good idea, you start to lose muscle and in turn only have fat, and then you get upset thinking ''why is there still fat there'' well, thats why :/
If your serious about your weight theres nothing wrong with going online and doing what is called a BMI test, actually, i'll do one for you, a simple google search is all you need. The result is, 'Healthy BMI' which is perfect :) And you can do one yourself if you want, as its online you can be 100% accurate aswell :)
Please, do not starve yourself, it is the worst thing you can do. The best and most positive and refreshing way to lose weight successfully and not too much too soon or whatever, is to do some exercising (not loads of course just half hour a day or 1 hour 3 times a week, whatever you can fit into your daily life) and healthy eating :) Theres so much good information online these days, not the anorexic sites however.
I agree with this statement 'Losing weight should be a fun and exciting thing that you can incorporate into your daily life easily, not something that brings you down and drags on forever.' :)
Alll the best, sorry this is long!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): Yes you're bordering on the line of having an eating disorder, if you keep it up you'll become anorexic. Even if you're not under weight yet you can still suffer with this. If you start making yourself sick aswell you'll become bullimic.
This is not the way to lose weight and maintain your health. If you become anorexic or bullimic then you won't feel great at all. You might think you look good but actually you'll look ill, and probably worse than what you did when you were 'overweight'. I don't think you're overweight much at all.
I'm your height and 10 stone, and while I'd like to lose a little bit of weight, i'm going about it in a completely different way. I'm trying to cut down on snacks, eat more fruit and veg and I go running a few times a week.
I believe this is an easier way to get in shape.
If you're going to lose weight then you should do as I'm doing, or join a slimming programme, but don't over do it.
I think you should read this article, it's very insightful and it'll give you a taste of what might happen if you do go down the path of starvation
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/eating-disorder-is-this-what-im-getting-better.html
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reader, just_a_girl_28  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Honestly, reading your question reminded you of me. Im really into the whole staying fit thing, in a healthy way. Although that's the case, a couple of months ago I was just the way you are right now. Food became gross to me and just the sight of it made me want to throw up. I finally realized that the way I was eating and how I was treating my body was very dangerous and If I didn't stop It would eventually kill me.
now with you, If you do not have an eating disorder then you definitely are very close of having one. They are very dangerous and could be fatal. What I do see is that you at least you do recognize the fact that there is a possibility of that being the case with you, which is always the first step on everything (admitting and realizing). Now you need to get help, maybe counseling on helping you see yourself differently and most importantly BETTER.
EVERYONE has things they which they could change about themselves with the way they look. You just need to focus more on the good things about you which will help you forget about your flaws.
&&& if you really do want to loose weight, then that's fine just loose it in a healthy way. Exercise frequently and just eat very healthy. whatever you do don't starve yourself or take pills that promise to make you loose weight. They don't work, I KNOW.!
also, use the internet for your advantage, their is soo many websites that can help you with the way you are thinking right now. A lot of HEALTHY diet plans and ways you can exercise. check them out.
Last, Im sure youre a beautiful young lady and always remember their is nothing more sexy in a girl than CONFIDENCE, a girls has it and she IS sexy.!
good luck hun.
I hope this helps
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reader, slen  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 hi im 5ft 4in and 8 1/2 stone... all i think about is keepin slim everyone comments how slim i am but wen i look in the mirror i see fat. deep down i know im not but thats how i see myself.if i eat i feel guilty and take laxatives i try not to eat at all.i was down to 7stone 10lbs and i still lloked in the mirror and thought i should loose more this has been goin on for 5 yrs i'v tried to stop but it only lasts a week. i was like you once and i started the way you are now. my advice is stop, dont do it and dont think about it.no matter if you get to that weight you will not be happy it takes controll it becomes a habbit that is impossible to break. i am so ashamed of wat i do that no one knows and im afraid to tell anyone. please listen to me and dont let it happen to you.i bet if you ask your mates and family that you look great as your are and i bet your not fat at all. best of luck xxx
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