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writes:Dear Cupids,I've known this guy for 4 yrs, we are friends actually.When I had first met, I developed feelings . He said he felt the same way and it was only till long after that he told me he had a GF who was away at the moment. The feelings between us was intense but even so I knew I couldn't get involved bcus he has a GF. He never talks abt her and always says that he doesn't believe in letting the world know his business. On Jan 1st 2015, he said he was in a bad mood but I didn't ask for fear that he would put me in his place for asking about his business but then he told me he had a fight with his Gf and I shouldn't get into it cus I didnt know what's going on. Then they patched it up. After that we still remained close and I asked him out what he felt for me and if we would ever be together and he said he was gonna make me his Gf but I wasn't ready get. Last night we chatted. I said goodnight, what's up? And he said he is good then I was doing chores and took a while but I replied later "you ok? Because something was off about him and he said he just broke up with his GF and he didn't feel like talking and I said that joke is as old as an oak tree to which he blocked me. So my question is why is he sayin he doesn't tell people his business yet everytime he gets in an argument with his Gf or breaking up he tells me and why block me? Is this some trick guys play on women minds? Thanks
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 March 2015):
 This gives me zero joy, but I think only "the truth will set you free" in this case. So don't read this from the standpoint of me sitting behind a computer judging you, but rather from someone seeing you in a burning building and wanting to rescue you, even if the method bruises you.
Okay? Something tells me you want this.
You're the bit on the side. I'd be surprised if you were the only one. But, the one that broke up with him is his primary, and he thinks he loves her. That puts you low on his list, no matter what your feelings are for him.
I know this hurts, but stay blocked. Consider this the best thing for you. I've seen too many waste their time and beauty on men who view them as castoffs. Time for you to take back your identity.
Get away from this guy. He views you as a speed bump for his love story with the number one, even if he doesn't deserve her. Who wants to date a cheater anyways?? See him for what he is and drop him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 March 2015):
 It's not what ALL guys do. It's what THIS guy does.
My guess is that you two have had such blurred boundaries for so long, you being his "friend" in hopes that he would date you down the line, and him being friend with you so he HAS a girl to rub his ego (even when the GF is mad at him).
My guess is he might even feel like the break up is YOUR fault (if the GF even knows about you) - NOT that it IS your fault, don't get me wrong. But when he started to do his little "woe is me, the GF broke up" you called him on it, because you have heard the SAME song and dace a few times before, HE was expecting you to rub his ego, not "roll your eyes" at him.
Now if you look at all this from an outside view would YOU be totally fine with YOUR BF (if you had one) to have a female friend who is just waiting for your relationship to end so you can step in? Was this really a friendship that made sense?
You even ASKED him, if you two would date.. and guess what? He "Claimed" that YOU weren't ready .... seriously?
I'm sorry, I'd let him stay blocked and move on. And next time if you make friend with a guy who has a GF and you develop feelings.. step away... it will only cause YOU heart ache and drama.
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