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writes:My Boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday that he needs a break because he has not slept with any other girl. He said if I don't want to wait than we can break up. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me more than anything else and on some level I understand. Do you think that this is a sign I should let him go? Or should I just do the break?
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reader, aew4 +, writes (30 September 2009):
aew4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for replying to me. A lot of you might think its strange that I understand where he's coming from, but I do. Thanks to your comments though, I realized a break-up is the best thing for me. If 6 or 7 months down the road, we still REALLY want to be with each other I may consider it. I think what I learned is this is an opportunity for me to get out there and learn about myself, not rely on another.
thanks so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): Yes, he told you that the reason he's breaking up is that he has NOT screwed another woman...
HELLO...
HINT...
send him packing, and if he comes back demand a fully battery of STI tests...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): no,no, this is not love.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (30 September 2009):
 "I know he loves me more than anything else" - Sorry to say hun but he doesn't love you, not even a bit. I can't believe that he would even tell you this, the amount of disrespect he has shown you here should be enough to make you run for the hills. Don't think about anything, dump him right now. As pinktopaz said, you will probably find it hard to deal without him, but think logically for a few moments...he is being selfish, disrespectful and he doesn't care about you at all. And pinktopaz is right, what are you going to wait for?Put yourself in his shoes...say you 'loved' him so much but you hadn't slept with other guys...would you tell him you need a break so you can go and sleep around and then come back and resume things with him? No, I didn't think so.There is no love here, at least not from him. So please, let him go today and never look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): Ask yourself if you could really wait while he goes and bangs other girls?
And then take him back once he's done? If you can do this then your quiet the girl.
Leave him This WILL hurt you, it will hurt to just say no and break up but it wont hurt as much if you wait.
Good luck
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (30 September 2009):
Let him go! What do you plan on doing on a break? Downing a pint upon pint of ben & jerry's, drinking yourself into a misery, all while watching romantic movies while he goes out and bangs other chicks? He really doesn't care that much if he's willing to just break up if you don't want to wait around. In my opinion, there's no such thing as a break, only a breakup. Dump him and find someone that isn't being selfish. I know you'll feel like there's no one else in the world for you but him, and that you're deeply in love with him and vice versa, but the feeling will go away over time.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (30 September 2009):
 Only you can answer this question for yourself. If you don't do the break, you run the very high risk of him cheating on you. So you need to give him his break and let him have other women. Whether or not you want him back after he is through with this phase of his life, is up to you.
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