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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together a year now but lately his interest in me seems to have disappeared, he's also become a lot more immature than I had realised before the relationship started.He's a musician, and even though I'm happy for him, it seems that he's putting his music before me (When we've had things planned for weeks, he'll call it off last minute to do something with the band etc.) I've spoken to him about this, and I've told him I don't mind him doing things with the band as obviously it's his career, but also that I would like some recognition or at least some notice, but nothing changes.He's also gained this flippant attitude with me, and snaps at things I say that aren't even argumentitive or spiteful. The immaturity comes in when I'm trying to have a serious conversation with him and he'll just say something like 'LOLZ K'. Yes, I know, it sounds pathetic seeing as we are in our 20's.. this is the problem im facing.Is this a phase or something I should get out of? I do love him, but I'm not sure if I can cope with this.
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reader, Guitarist +, writes (24 March 2009):
 I think he's taking you for granted and probably wont even believe you if you broke up with him.
i say you should leave him. if he truely wants to be with you, he'll come running.
You need to make a stand!
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reader, Caro108  +, writes (24 March 2009):
Maybe he is doing it on purpose, and wants you to break up with him, so he is not the one having to do it.
If you feel like you deserve to be paid attention to more (which we all deserve to be), i think you should get out of it, and no wait more. Maybe he will realize he does not know what he has till its gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): Sweetheart if you aren't getting what you need from this relationship you have options. Break up with him entirely, choose to date some other men and put this relationship on the backburner or let him know that you are no longer available to him all of the time because you are accepting other dates, or you can choose to continue to give more than this guy is giving you or pursuing him more than he is pursuing you and get no further down the path to what you are after....happy ever after.
No one can make this choice other than you.....if he is not caring about your needs, of course that isn't really great, but you may have to reach a compromise about his music....I am not sure if you mean he is getting some last minute gigs, or if he is just canceling to hang out with them, why can't he include you in those kind of jam sessions or what ever it is they are doing? That would be my question to him first off.
Good Luck
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