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*james
writes:So I've heard that ignoring a girl you want to come back makes them miss you and want YOU back. The girl Im talking about is in Advanced Individual Training in Texas and just finished BCT. She says Im her favorite person on this Earth, which I believe. We dated nearly two years and she cheated on me with another guy, all she could say was she wasnt happy. Then the confusion started, by us still hanging out kissing and saying I love you I felt there is still a chance. She had asked for breaks before and we never had much of one, like we still hungout during the break, just didnt show love. That was short lived and we were back together. Soon she cheated and she actually broke up with me. As she is away in the military soon to come back because she is in the reserves she says she hasn't had the time to think about us and if we have another shot. I did forgive her for cheating because I truly love her and I don't believe that should be the end if things can be mended. Not being with her and the thought of losing her eats me up all the time and leaves me with sadness. My question is, while she is half way across the country is that a good time to try ignoring her? Or would it be a bad idea because she needs support from me (her best friend now) and might find it from some new guy? I really need some good advice, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): Woah there. You really believe that you're her best friend? You're her ex. I'm not saying that exes can't be friends but there needs to be some sort of distance. Saying things like "you're my favourite person in the world" is wrapping you round her little finger. If you're her fave person why the hell did she cheat on you/ask for breaks etc? Do you think if you started daying someone else she would still make an effort? No because you wouldnt be able to give her the attention she needs from you in order to make herself feel good whilst shes trying to have sex with other people. Ignoring may help temporarily but what happens when she comes running back to you and then gets bored again? Not a healthy situation to be in..
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 May 2013):
 Mind games are not a good way to go about this. Your relationship sounds very unstable and sounds like it always has been and really it would probably be best for both of you if you split up and moved on. It's impossible to move on if you keep hanging out and talking and kissing and saying you love each other, so you never really had a chance to get over the relationship. While she is away is a great way to try to separate yourself.
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