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female
age
36-40,
*eartoflove
writes:I met a new guy about a month ago, and we just hooked up for the first time last weekend. Ever since then he has talked to me everyday by phone, and a few times a week we'll hang out. Just the other day in front of his friends, he wasn't afraid to be affectionate and would hold my hand or kiss me from time to time. My problem is I am just very paranoid because I don't know whether this will eventually lead to a relationship or not. He said the other day that he is learning a lot about me but is still getting to know me. Is this a good sign, or is it possible he is having doubts? Only reason why I ask this question is because I've been hurt so much in the past, and I am worried about getting hurt again. I should also mention that he just ended a two year relationship a few months ago. Thanks in advance for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, a-g55  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 ok please promise me you will completly eradicate all hopes of a relationship with this guy because you have known him a month now and yes at some point soon a relationship will still come of it but you still need good foundations to build upon. please see my article called relarionships are like building a house. now there are alot of things u suddenly cant do in a relationship and you quickly become a possesion rather than another half to the relationship. please take time to relax and let the flow of things happen and dont worry if he does or doesnt like you because you will start gettin paranoid about it and it will eventualy drive him away. what you need to do is pace and match. you dont want to be at his disposal coz you submitted too much power. you have to stay cool. and match what he feels and what he wants to do until u can observe he has come to your level of lust for him. it take mind control and with it your relationship will be fun 100% of the time and you will not fall out over silly things and you will be together longer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): He sounds like a keep girrrrl!!!Good luck
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