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writes:Hey all, so I'm asking this girl to the prom within the next week, hopefully. I don't particularly know her all that great, so I'm kinda just winging it.I was going to go all out and spend a decent amount of money on it, or get something while it was on sale after Valentine's but it didn't work out that way.So, this was my plan. I was going to buy one of those like 3' tall teddy bears and put it on her trunk after school with prom on the back window. I can't find one of those anywhere though, that aren't like $50 or specifically Valentine's related. So, I was looking for other ones online and I found a beanie baby that's only like $10 with the British flag (she just moved here from the U.K. like 2 years ago) embroidered on the chest, but it's super tiny. It's 4" and I wanted to do something bigger, because that seems to be a bit cheesy. What is your opinion on it?I was thinking maybe put like a single rose with a few balloons and it wouldn't be that bad. Yes or no?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI phrased the "I don't know her very well" part wrong. I know her pretty decently, but I just haven't seen a lot of her in this past school year. No classes together and I have a half schedule then college classes for another 6 hours, so I'm always busy.
Thanks for the feed back from everyone. I bought the Teenie, just because I think she'll love it, being from the U.K. I think I'm just going to do that and a single red rose and leave it on her car after school and park next to her and wait, then ask when she walks up.
I have to wait a week for shipping, so I'll try to remember to update here, but I normally forget things like this! haha.
So, anyways, thanks to everybody!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 February 2013):
 In times like this, turn to the masters of dating: Napoleon Dynamite and Pedro. Pedro is the real mastermind of the situation. To ask their respective women to the dance, Pedro advises Napoleon to take a very European artistic route:
"Just draw a picture of the girl you want to take out... and give it to her for like a gift or something."
And when creating your art, you should spend at least 3 hours alone doing the shading on her upper lip.
As for Pedro, he himself uses a culinary approach, and he decides to, "build her a cake or something". While it was a good effort, it doesn't pan (ahhh, pun... cake pan? Come on.) out and he goes for the classic note approach. Victory.
Nah, I'm just kidding you. Take the advice of Michael Scott, KISS it. Keep It Simple, Stupid. ("Great advice... hurts my feelings every time.") If you want to go romantic, go for the single rose and the note. I'd skip the bear. I'd skip balloons. Especially skip the balloons, then she'll have to carry them around all day, and what's she going to do with a bunch of balloons? If you're not sure whether she's going to say yes or no, I would keep the gesture simple. And besides, simplicity can be very romantic. Good luck!!
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reader, Beautynomore +, writes (20 February 2013):
Well I asked around for ya, I have 4 nieces ages from 18 to 23.. They said that would be so adorable. They did say the guys may be like %%%%% . But the girls would love it. And it comes down to what the ladies think not the guys, as long as you get the girl!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 February 2013):
 too over the top.... IMO
especially since you don't know her that well.
personally I like the direct approach...
go up to her when no one is around and ask her.
no balloons, no flowers, no cheesy bear etc...
just be yourself..
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reader, CMMP +, writes (20 February 2013):
Sounds cheesy to me but It's possible I'm not in touch with the 18 year old girl demographic.
I remember that I found prom to be too cheesy at the time as well. What's wrong with asking her straight up? Is your thinking that you need to wow her so she'll say yes?
Not to be a bummer, but since you don't really know her, how would you feel if you did your elaborate asking and she said no?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (20 February 2013):
 Keep it simple bro. A rose with a note attached is perfect. Women just like to see the gesture so no need to go all out. If u go all out itll come across as a butt kisser n women dont like that cause it isnt masculine. Good luck.
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reader, Beautynomore +, writes (20 February 2013):
Hmmm, tricky because you don't want to make a fool out of yourself if she turns you down but then again taking chances is how we succeed in life!!First, ask around make sure she isn't already got a date!Second, if you know for sure she hasn't got a date yet then I would go for it before you lose your chance, girls start getting antsy about prom right about this time. Prom to them is like a wedding, they gotta get the dress, tanning, nails, hair..it is a very big deal, Ik trust me I have 2 sons and did a total of six highschool dances. ( semi, jr prom and prom) it's exhausting but so much fun...Third how to go about asking, I think your idea sounds cute and that's how it will be viewed among her girl peers..they will be like awwwwww, cutieee!They sell those big teddies, small teddies at Walgreens, cvs, rite aid and such. My daughter got one for christmas, it cost him 30 bucks. Put a single friendship color rose ( not sure of the color ask the florist), with a sign that asks her to prom. If it were me or my daughter I would absolutely take a guy up on that offer. You took the time, thought it through and went for it. Girls like a guy who knows what they want.they like to be romanced.. For example: my sons age 21 always had me go with him to pick his gf's gifts out. Now they have been together for 3 yrs and this vday he did not ask me for any advice. He made the reservation at the resteraunt and delivered a box of beautiful long stem red roses to her home and left them on her bed with a beautiful card so she seen them when she got home ( they have very busy schedules) so he couldn't hand them to her!! She was ecstatic that he took the time, thought about and just did it!!Good luck, I hope it goes your way. Let us know if it worked, and don't cower out by phone or email. Put a personal touch on it, just like you planned..
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