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* katrina ?
writes:i have a problem, ive been close to this man for a year or two now, we met online but recently started meeting up. i have feelings for him, kinda starting to fall for him. he lives local so we spend quite abit of time together and im sure he likes me too. the thing is i dont know whether i can trust him, all of the people he associates with play around with girls, cheat on them and stuff. i dont know whether my man is doing this too. there is not many reasons i have to doubt him alothough he is on the phone quite alot when i ring him (he never answers) at like 3am! he wont tell anyone about me and him, i dont understand why he keeps it a secret :(. ive slept with him too.. do you think he just wants the sex ?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Be careful, he could be a vulture. You have been with him for a year or two and you should be able to assess his character.
A man is what he is by the friends he keeps.That is a red flag.Another thing is his phone is always busy and that could mean he is not alone.
Lastly ,he wants to keep you under wrap and this is not a good sign. It spell of lies deceits and sneaking around. This could mean that he may have another woman.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Sorry but I think for him you are an internet sexual fling. The reason is that he wants to keep you a secret after all this time. When men are smitten with ladies they make their feelings clear and like to show you off to the world. It is entirely possible that you are one of many ladies he is dating from the internet or other sources. I don't think his associates behaviour definitely brands him a cheat, but I think aspects of his own behaviour (i.e. keeping you as a secret) suggests all is not good for your future together. Stop sleeping with him and see if he sticks around and remains interested in you.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Red Flags here - you are a secret, he hasnt told anyone about you.....
He's only after free sex.
Stop giving him sex and he will fade into the distance!
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 May 2010):
It's true that birds of a feather flock together, and in truth this guy does seem a little too complacent. Certainly if he's not told anyone about you, then there's a reason for that, such as not wanting other women to know. I think you need to pay more attention to what he's getting up to. But really, this sounds like you're being used.
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