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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidMy bf has told me he has some work related problems, and wanted me never to talk to him anymore. Long story short, he always make mountain out of mole person and he lies often, I don't entirely but his story. Still wanted to be there for him, tried hard to make him talk about it, and he is not opening up and he is shouting me out entirely. I tried to call him today but he told if I ever call him again he will hurt me so bad that emotional scar will not go away even for years of therapy. I deleted his number and told him he won't hear from me again. Why did he have to be so mean and cruel I just want to b there for him, to help him in anyway I can. I am crazy about him, he hasn't actually broken up with me, but is this the break up. What should I do now, do I need to wait for him to call me back. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2015): He has broken up with you sweetie. He did when he asked you to never contact him again.
You say you are crazy about him. Could you have been smothering to him by chance? Were you clingy at all?
You seem to have really gotten on his nerves. He asked you not to contact him. He told you he is having work problems. You keep calling him and he finally snapped on you.
From the information you told me I say you need to leave him alone, period. And begin to get over him slowly. You can not contact him again, ever. You will look very crazy to him. If he contacts you feel free to respond if you want.
Sorry you're hurting. I hope you feel better soon
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 March 2015):
 YES, he has broken up with you. It is over, it is done, it is FINAL. With what you described as his conversation with you, you should count your blessings that such a horrible person is out of your life.
Keep his number deleted, and if he tries to contact you again, tell him never to talk to you again. Such a man threatening to hurt you so bad to emotionally scar you for years is a loser. Also, if some guy has to threaten that, he's a liar and is bluffing. You should never be desperate enough or crazy enough for a guy to allow one to ever have that kind of power over you.
He's also a flake. Work issues, and he takes it out on you? Let him be someone else's nightmare. Run free like a bear who has escaped a fatal trap or a mouse who got the cheese before the trap broke its back, because that bear and that mouse is you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 March 2015):
 It's a chicken way to do it but it's a break up.
and WHEN he calls you again and is all SORRY.. do not take his call.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 March 2015):
 Can you name what it is about your BF that you are SO crazy about, that outweigh his treatment of you?
WHEN it is EVER OK for a man (or woman) to VERBALLY abuse their partner?
Do you need to wait to call him back?
NO you need to NEVER call him back.
Take his TREATMENT of you as a break up. YOU are broken up, he wants nothing to do with you. And you... SHOULD want absolutely nothing to do with him.
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