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30-35,
anonymous
writes:On Monday me and my boyfriend got into a fight over something small and now he hasn't said one word to me in 3 whole days ! I'm worried. I don't want it to be over I just wanna work it out . yesterday he called and let it ring 3 times and hung up but I don't know if he was doing that on purpose or because he was deleting my number because he doesn't want me anymore it was right after he got off work to. I don't know what to think anymore we get along so well but we do argue and run into problems a lot but still I want to work this out . Will he call or text me or is he done ? And did he mean to call me or was it just an accident? He didn't call me this morning or anything I'm really just hurt that he would go this long without calling or texting me. Do you think he is just cooling off or waiting on me or there is someone else please help I'm not sure what to do
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reader, tommyrba  +, writes (29 February 2016):
I think you need to call him and if he doesnt answer, leave a message to say that you need to talk and then have an open and frank discussion. The fact that he did call you would indicate that he is keen to talk but maybe cut off as you have not tried to make much contact with him either.
If you both leave it to one another then you will never get to a resolution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2016): No I have not tried to contact him but he called but he only let it ring 3 times but I was also sleeping it was in the morning when he got off I sent the last message and he never replied .its now been 4 days without contact from him or me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2016): You argue and run in to problems a lot, you say...how long have you been together? Who's fault was the argument? I would say it is likely he was trying to get a reaction by letting it ring three times- just long enough to not enable you to answer, but long enough to let he show hes there and leave you curious to what's going on in his head...its gameplay - you are both as bad as each other. If you were out of order then you need to reach out. Longer term you need to agree ground rules, cos these sorts of games will do your head in.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 February 2016):
 Call him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 February 2016):
 He tried to ring you, and you didn't pick up? Why? If you want to sort things out you NEED to put on your big girl panties and TALK to him.
Call him.
Obviously it wasn't such a "little" thing after all.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 February 2016):
 You are really hurt that he has not contacted you, maybe he is feeling the same? Sounds to me like you are both stubborn.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (25 February 2016):
 Say sorry. Its obviously hurt and feeling cold/empty. He doesnt know that you care.
Lean in, apolgogize, say your truth and just turn away. And when hes healed he will open up again but dont assault him with continueing the argument or with tons of texts. He needs time to cool off
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (25 February 2016):
Have you tried to contact him?
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