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writes:i AM 23 YEARS OLD. Ive been dating the same guy for three years now. I love him very much, and we have a lot of fun together. He was a virgin when we first started dating. But now we hardly have sex, maybe once a month if im lucky, and when we do he'd rather do it doggie style,becuase thats the only way he can cum. Iver only seen him cum once, whats the deal with taht And i cant stand that postion. Is there something wrong with him or me? Reply to this Question
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reader, candygirl  +, writes (17 November 2008):
 Heya darling
i have the same problem. Ive asked my boyfriend whats the deal with it and he just says it feels most comfortable for him.
this is nothin to do you as your not the one who can only cum in that position.
Tell your partner that you dont like that position but dont just blurt it out, slowly build up and then slide it into the conversation. As men dont like talkin bout sex alot.
Just ask him to try new and different positions and if he is against it then just tell him bluntly that you dont like doing it doggy.
There is absolutely nothin wrong with you, its all him.
Hope you can get the pleasure that you know your partner can give you.
Good luck
Candygirl
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (17 November 2008):
 Hello sweetheart
Well in my personal opinion I think this is definitely his problem and I think he needs to address it properly as you are getting bored with the same position all the time and if like you say he only cums whilst doing it in this position but has only cum once to your knowledge his performance is obviously bothering him as he is not coming very often.
Sex is always a sensitive area to talk about and men often get very defensive when discussing it.
However, I think you need to tell him what is bothering you and try and discuss it openly, tell him you are bored with the same position and would prefer to try other options.
Tell him that you feel unloved if that is how you feel as the levels of intimacy you are having with him is just not enough for you and you want to make it right as you love him very much.
I think by reassuring him of your love he may open up to you but be prepared for him to lock down and go silent for a while. Remember the old saying men go to their caves and women talk.
His lack of experience also indicates that he is unfamiliar with trying new things and if you have more experience than him perhaps suggest some new ideas for sexual pleasures, maybe wearing sexy underwear and role playing.
First and foremost though you cannot keep going on the way you are right now as this is an unfulfilling relationship for you and that just isn't right.
Bite the bullet and talk to him OK. Keep us posted eh!x
BFN
Country Woman
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