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writes: ive been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now, when we first got together i knew he would never leave me and if we were to split up it would be me splittingup with him now it feels like im the one who wont leave and it will be him! his parents or friends dont know about his cos his parents hate me so that puts quite a strain on us but i moved from my old flat to somewhere knew and got a job so his parents would realise im more mature but he hasnt got the guts to tell them again! i just dont know what to do, his currently working in the oub just 5minutes walking distant from my house and doesnt work through the day so what stops him coming to see me! i see him once a week and quite frankly that isnt enough for me! once upon a time he sent me a text (while we had broke up for like a week) saying i hope we can get back together cos i'd like to get engaged while that hasnt happen! ive asked for a bit more commitment not meaning getting engaged just a bit more attention or him telling his parents and since then nothing has happen and we have drifted apart! are we going to split up or is there something i can do or say to get him to put a bit more effort into our relationship???Thank you
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 it seems hunnie that you need to ask him why he isnt with you more than once a week, if he loves you then he should be able to be with you more than 1 a week.. Be honest with him and ask, why did he ask you back and now doesnt seem to have a great interest. dont argue or have a tone be simple and understanding ask him why you have drifted apart , tell him to share his feelings when it comes to you and him..But to me it doesnt look good, but their maybe a few facts that i dont know to understand the situation better.. best advice is have a talk with him xx good luck hun
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reader, Tiagre +, writes (30 December 2006):
Sorry, but he doesn't sound as attached to you as he once was.
I think you should try to forget what he used to be like, what he used to say - because he's not saying that anymore. If his parents don't approve of you, can you really see a future with this guy? You need to ask yourself if you think he takes you for granted, because I know I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I only saw my partner once a week.
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