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writes: i have fallen in love with a man online, and we havent met yet, we have been talking for 7 months now, i feel we really conect well together. recently he cheated on me and had sex with another woman. he asked me back and i told him he gets one last chance. he seems to have changed, we are going to be meeting soon hopefully. but i still feel sad and im no closer to understanding him. he is the same age as me slightly older. His parents dont know me but they are judging me so i feel this doesnt help the situation..Would like to know other peoples views thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Darling, he "cheated on u yet you've never met? Doesnt work that way. You'll probbably find he has several other women he chats to- and evidently sleeps with. Dont get so attached to him before you've met him. Theres nothing wrong with having a bit of an on-line romance, but its not official until you've met. You're probbably falling in love with sum1 who doesnt even exist- just take a step back and wait until u meet him to see how u feel about him.
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (29 December 2006):
i meet a guy online were ok now talked for about a year and are together now.
you need to be carefull with guys online they mite not be wot they say they are. is this the first time u are going to meet him? if it is then you should talk a good friend with you if not meet him were there is lots of people as town.i know 7 months seem along time are you sure you know him as well as you think you do.
maybe he is sorry people can change and i think people desereve a second chance.how much older is he?
you just need to watch he isnt just after you for one thing.
good luck hope goes well xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006): Firstly, I feel online relationships are a bit fickle so I am trying to understand how you can be in love, dear? I am glad to hear you are meeting soon...but you need to really think about why you-have you allowed yourself to become emotionally involved with a man, you have never met. You know nothing about him or his family except what he is has 'told' you, online. And why has it been seven months? Why hasn't he insisted on meeting you, sooner? Usually when people meet online they meet within weeks and if they can't, due to distance-the relationship should be reassessed. I know you want love and intimacy in your life, but it would be better to meet him in 'real life' and then...make your judgement and discerments on whether he's the one for you.
Now about this cheating incident of his. I can see why you feel he cheated if you believe you are in love with him. But you don't say if he loves or cares about you.. Maybe he regards you as just a close nternet/online friend and nothing more. In which case, your heartfelt feelings for him, have no bearing on what he chooses to do, in his life. So you can't really say it's cheating on his part, can you until you meet, and develop a more 'real' relationship. I mean you two have even touched each other-never physically been close-seen each other's mannerisms and body languages, etc. You might be shocked at what you really feel, when you do have a face to face meeting. All I know, is his behaviours clearly indicate, he's not at the same place as you in this relationship, if he's dating and sleeping with another woman. So I recommend , you slow down, girl because you do sound lonely and you crave intimacy but please be sensible and don't allow those feelings to force you to make rash decisions about men you meet, online. Got to watch those emotions..keep your wits about you and meet him first. Good luck, hun
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