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writes:Over the past few months, me and my slightly younger (by 3 years) male cousins have been getting to spend quite a bit of time together, and I've developed a bit of a attraction to both of them, both for different reasons...The first one, lets call him "Kyle", he's very muscular and athletic, and while part of me wants to scream out that I love him, I know its only lust, and although part of me would love to, there is no way in heck I'll ever act upon it.But the second one, lets call him "Joey", is kyle's exact opposite, artistic, musicaly talented, intellectual at times, and can be very... random at othes, and though the physical attraction is much less present then it is with Kyle, I still find myself just as drawn to him, if not more so. Not only that but, I'm not entirely sure, but I think Joey may be gay or bi, but please do not mistake that as stereotypeing, or just wishful thinking, he quite often makes some very suggestive comments, some aimed at me, and in addition to that, recently we were forming backstories for a Live Action Role Playing game that Joey, Kyle, my younger brother, lets call him "Mick", and I were going to participate in together, and his suggestion was to make him and I a gay couple, and Mick our adopted child.... now it may just be my imagination, but considering it was "live action" (where we ARE the charecters we made within th game, and act acordingly) role play and not a pen and paper game, doesn't that seem to suggest something? So, I apologize that this is so long, but I feel it was information that needed to be known in order to answer my questions:First, is it just me or does he really seem to be suggesting something between us?second, does this make me some kind of sick pervert for feeling this way towards my cousins?third, is there a way to know for sure if "Joey" is gay or bi besides asking him and hoping for an honest answer? because just incase he isn't, I don't want to ruin what we do have, maybe a way to get him to tell me?If you've made it this far, thank you for reading my post, and I apologize for any typos, my keyboard is junk and sometimes ignores my key presses, and I may not of found all the mistakes it has caused me to make
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (10 June 2010):
 I'd say it's purely mild attraction due to familiarity. You'll only turn into a sick pervert if you act upon your feelings. Does it really matter if "Joey" is gay, bi, or straight? Why do you need to know that? It's his own personal bizz. to disclose or not. As for the live action RP thing, I'd say you're making something of nothing.
Ok, so you admire your cousins for different reasons due to who you know them each to be. Leave it at admiration and don't try to make it something it's not. Otherwise you risk creating a mess you may not want.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (10 June 2010):
 I see by your 'posting' that you say you are 18-21. If your cousins are 3 years younger... that makes them 15-18. There are LEGAL ramifications involved here that you should be VERY VERY CAREFUL about crossing. It doesn't matter who they are. If they are under 18 and you are not, and you get into a physical relationship - of just about any kind, with them you could find yourself in some very deep legal doo doo that will haunt you for the rest of your life.
That said, my first m2m interaction was with my cousin - of the same age. We were both under aged at the time. Nothing more happened really that some sucky sucky. It's not uncommon to 'play' around with those immediately close to you.
If you really have feelings for Joey and you find that he has the same feelings for you... and either one of you is under age... you're gonna have to wait until you're both legal aged. Short of asking him whether he's gay/bi... it's almost impossible to 'find out'. HE essentially has to come out to you.
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